my well dressed man would give such a response! Very funny to realise that so many of my readers also turned out to be men and that a lot of the female reader's boyfriends/husbands also are part of this blog.
But whenever I write something about a certain subject in life which is very often regarded as superficial, I always have some readers who comment in a negative way, saying that it is far to shallow and that they "didn't think I was such a shallow person".
That gave me the inspiration to write todays post.
I always find it very interesting to read comments like that, because in my world it is just so awkward and wrong to believe that one thing has to exclude the other. Why can't someone appreciate fashion, interior decorating, nice things, good restaurants, magnificent hotels around the world, beauty and details in life - without being catalogued in something negative? It makes absolutely no sense whatsoever in my mind. One has to be very narrow in his perspectives as a human being to react with that kind of repressed belief.
I think everyone can be everything, in a beautiful mix of shallow/deep, sad/happy, boring/interesting - only your own preconceptions set the limits in your head. I always try to have an open mind and take everything as a splendid mix and I am very satisfied by the fact that everyone can become and be everything in my mind. Quite often I find that almost all people I meet have something inspiring in them, something cool and interesting for me. Something that I can learn from even though it might just be to learn what I don't want to be like. Judging and putting people in trays is so old fashioned and life killing. They have not yet understood the big secret in life, how nice and relaxed it feels to not care so much about what other people do and don't do - and just focus on themselves and what they have in their own life that is of importance.
When you are able to shake loose the responsibility and the greed to try to find faults, defects and other "wrong things" in every one else, you will feel a heavy burden lift away from your shoulders. You will be a freer person and all the energy you use to nag, talk badly, get annoyed at other human beings will stay in you for better purposes if you choose to use it in a positive way instead. It is far more rewarding to think positive thoughts, to be kind towards others and think about them in a nice way (even if they are very different from you and your own thoughts, ideas and way of living). It is the biggest way of expressing intelligence, great intelligence, to realise that just because my way of life with my thoughts is my reality - it doesn't mean it's the correct way. People do not need to dance behind my lead in order for me to be satisfied and calm in my soul.
So why is the world full of people who are bound in their thoughts and very often jealous? Because not everyone has come that far in their own development. They are still in a journey like the rest of us, but haven't come that long I guess.
Some grown ups take everything personally, like if everything that makes them react was a direct insult towards them, as if life was against them and everyone who is happier, has a better job, a faster/more luxurious car, a nicer partner ... etc has anything to do with them and whatever they are lacking in life. But what I've learned throughout my own journey is that my happiness has nothing to do with your sadness and vice-versa. If I am sad, it won't change your sadness or bring you happiness. You won't be more pleased with your life just because I'm not.
But we can find inspiration in those who have something we want. I feel that the most established people I've met are the ones who also give the rest of us inspiration to be the ones we are.
So if style tells a lot about who you are, your views of other people and how judgmental you are - do it even more.