Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Lesson learned

So this weekend my God daughter's father, who is Chinese, had some friends over from Beijing in China. The guy, Fen (hugging Alexis), was actually one of the people we visited 2008 when I went to China for a longer stay and truly got to know the city by the people themselves.
 They came for the visit of my God daughters baptism and the following day it was a lovely lunch to attend. Let me just say that 30 minutes into the lunch I had to leave because Alexis just went bananas and refused to sit still and behave well. My mother always tells me to adapt the environment to the children for everyones pleasure, and even though I mostly succeed with that, this Sunday I failed big time by thinking my lively little boy would enjoy oysters and Swedish meatballs and discussions about life in China today. Lesson learned. It's just stressful for everyone and extremely messy. But we grow from our mistakes.

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  1. Been there, done that... It feels better to know, that you're not the only parent leaving a restaurant when the going gets too tough. But as you wrote, we learn from our mistakes and there will for sure be more of these mistakes. We "grow" with our children.
    Hugs from Sophia.

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  2. Tack Stina för det goda omdömet att lämna stället! Alla föräldrar besitter som bekant inte det vilket innebär väldigt störiga konsekvenser för omgivningen.

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    1. Yes, that's very important and I understand other people without children! Even though I can have a bigger kind of understanding for parents with children on restaurants, if they can't behave you need to have respect for the other guest and leave. For everyones pleasure.

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  3. Why parents always wants to have children (baby even) with them into restaurants? Few year ago it was not like this.
    Many many times I was uptset with this new way to bring children even when in their car.... who are boring all persons around !!!
    Repsect the others persons please. In this case it was the family it's not the same thing. But you will envisage that can happen.

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  4. Maybe your son is hyperactive...?

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    1. He is not hyperactive, just a normal little boy, full of curiosity and life happiness!

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  5. Ble sikkert litt kjedelig for han stakkar,
    er jo ikke store karen ennå :)

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  6. Säger samma sak "Been there, done that". Nu är mina två 10 o 15, en kille och en tjej och de har aldrig som små (upp till 6 år!) tyckt om lugna middagar på restaurang! Det har altid varit mer eller midre cirkus de få gånger vi gick på restaurang! Mina har heller inte tyckt om shopping o långa caféstunder. Barn är olika o nu är mina barn stora, lugna, väluppfostrade och absolut inte hyperaktiva : )

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  7. Oh my god! It's a toddler with full of energy who acts so normal. Why do you insits that he could be hyperactive?

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  8. Hardly a sign of hyperactivity. My toddler is two and not fit for restaurants. After a few minutes when my child has finished eating there is no more sitting still! I think it is completely normal, they have so much energy!

    MK

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  9. Uta writing. Ok now you will know and its not so grave only for you who was unhappy but It's done you know what to do next time and no problem! What a polemic about that.. Dont worry Stina. Only true that sometimes toddlers are disturbing but the educated parents know how to manage and you are one of these no problem. XXX uta

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  10. Kloka Stina, skillnaden mellan en vis och en envis person är förmågan att kunna lära sig av sina misstag- i detta fall känns det för stort att säga misstag, det var en erfarenhet, och de blir man ju rikare av ;-)

    /Laura

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  11. Nothing better than to experience new places with the Eyes and help from local. We Always travel in that way. Either already having friends or friends-of-friends in the city we are going to. Or through hospitality sites online!! So many Beautiful and loving people in our World. With the law of attraction you will make sure to attract the ones as well :)

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  12. Underbar blogg och harliga bilder! Blev tipsad om att ga in har and Im happy I did! Supersot son du har, good job ;)

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  13. EVERYONE: Thank you for the interesting comments! I just have to adapt my environment to my child/children and life is soooo much easier and less stressful!

    Best,
    stina

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  14. Totally right Stina!Someday you and Alexis will enjoy together, when he is older.
    All the best,
    Lena
    Was away for the last days;)

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