Saturday, December 21, 2013

Christmas rush

The lack of updates this time (!!!) is manly because everything that's happening around us in combination with Christmas. And all of you parents know that even if millions of things is happening around, you still have the normal, quite active family life going on at the same time that stops at 9pm in the evening if you're lucky. That's why I through in a picture of Leon in this cavalcade, bathing in his own little tub, trying to visualise it in pictures.
But we've also hosted dinners, Christmas lunch etc, etc and I'm also packing boxes for our move and packing for our one week in the Alps, starting tomorrow. Phu ...

In all of this, I'm/we're also:
- Trying to decide and buy new furnitures for our new house so we don't stand there without important things like a big sofa. We're also choosing colours, wall papers, carpets for the children's rooms, co-ordinating the move from the existing walk in closet to be changed to one of the boy's room and the present laundry room to go down in the cellar and to become my walk in closet plus changing the stairs in the house. So a LOT with the new house as you might understand.
- We're also trying to sell our more "sportier" car and buy a more family friendly version, suitable for a double pram and big grocery shopping. M is very unhappy about that. But life is family at the moment and so be it.
- We're also doing Skype interviews with women since we're actually hiring someone to live with us in our new house and helping with all the things necessary when you have a man who will be gone a week here and there, have a house in constant chaos (two small children and a dog) and since I'm eventually will start working agin starting little by little. It's such an important mission and she needs to be perfect in most ways possible. It takes time and a lot of gut feeling to do this, but I'm sure it will be the best christmas present ever for me and M. So we can have a little bit of relationship also and not just run a family without NO time for each other.
- Selling furnitures that we already have or give them away. Some things we would like to keep, but frankly we cannot make them fit in our moving truck!
- Buying Christmas presents and sending Christmas cards (addresses needs to be written and that takes two full evenings)

Well, you understand. I don't know why i'm telling you all of this, I'm sure you have your own busy calendar but even so, it makes me realise we're doing pretty good, managing all of this with a new born and a toddler.

We have internet in the mountains so I guess we'll talk more then. Now I need to take my youngest and fix the last things in the city (Alexis managed to find the Christmas presents yesterday and had fun un wrapping them when I was busy with Leon so new paper is necessary) ...

Tonight we're invited to a Christmas party and I can't wait to zip on a strong GT, put on some fancy clothes and have FUN!

Salut!

19 comments:

  1. Oh, you have so much going on and celebrating christmas on top of that!! But so many exciting things, which always makes it easier I find. Must be nice looking forward to the new house, but I'm sorry for the car. My father sold their red P1800 when I was born and regretted it, and even I regret it now, would have been lovely to have that car today. But that is life... enjoy the alps, Laila

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  2. Hi, can't you get your grocery shopping delivered and keep the car ! Anyway, Merry Christmas when it finally arrives. x

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  3. Alexis looks soooo handsome! Like a little Gentleman & a perfect host for this lunch in the picture! Leon is so cute in his bathtub (by the way: nice tub-model!)
    We have pretty much the same program (except the Alps hehe), as similar things going on in our lives.

    Have a safe trip and a great Christmas time with your family Stina !

    Love & hugs,
    Mel

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  4. The great, the best, the most important decision in this terrible stress of moving of house, Christhmas, etc etc
    Is to HIRE someone at home Stina. All life will change for you and children. Ouf it was time. Without nobody to help me each day I will be ..... Well I dont know but not as I am....
    It's a lot of stress thank to explain all that to us.
    Happy Christhmas, we will leave tomorrow for these days for a more sunny and cheerful town!
    P.s. You probably will have 2 cars... I am not worrying for you.
    A special kiss for Chrstmas and read you soon. Before leaving in January for a big travel to the islands far away on the sun.
    Uta

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  5. best of luck getting everything together with the house. I know from experience that renovations/construction never quite go as planned. yes, my home 10 years later is still under construction!

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  6. Hej vet ej om jag skulle vilja ha bnån som bor med mej o min fam ..men livet här hemma är nog mkt olikt ditt..alltig tagit hand om mina barn själv .har två .men lycka till o hoppas
    Personen passar i ditt liv.
    God jul mvh Eija

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  7. Renivations and works in a house are very difficult unfortunately never finish, and the worst are people
    Inside.....
    Good luck and patience but at the end it will be so great....
    Hugs
    Sylvia

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  8. Hi Stina

    There is a very nice Design Furniture Store in Friedrichshafen, named Lazzoni. Maybe you will find something there. Furthermore you could get your taxes back, if you buy in Germany.

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  9. Dear Stina,

    I do enjoy your blog (sometimes) and your thought's about life and our being in this world. And I know it's Cristmas time and everybody should be nice and understanding but I feeld that I need to react on this post and raise a critical voice. I hope I will have your understanding and we can maybe discuss this in an constructive manner.

    Sometimes I just can't help myself but shaking my head, wondering what kind of world it is you're living in?! Obviously one that is quite far away from most of our realities.
    My mum started working full time again when I turned one year, my sister followed when I was 2 and mum went back to work when my sis turned one year as well. At the same time being a scientist in the field of geography my dad travelled most of the time and was not at home too often and my grandparents lived in other cities/in another country. Still my mum handled a big house, a (nearly) full time job and us kids + our activities + her activities (meeting with her friends and doing yoga classes). Of course she admits that it was stressful and sometimes exhausting - but hey, that's life. Having a baby of my own now and having to take care of my life and my family's, I know how that feels and that you sometimes have to step back a step for the sake of the family. But you'll get so much love back in return. That's why I'm always wondering why you're complaining so much? Maybe you really entered the high class of society (to all sceptics: No, I'm not jealous!), see that everybody around you has 2-3 nannies, a houesekeeper, a gardener and so on and therefore think that it's totally the way it has to be. I know now there comes the "Who are you to judge Stina?" but I don't think you're life is more stressful than the one of a mum working shifts in a grocery store (not mine, she's a teacher!) and having to take of two children at the same time. Am I wrong?

    At the same time I'm doubtful if this idea of a housekeeper/nanny living with you is so fruitful for the upbringing of your children.Just my experience tells me: I myself worked as an Au Pair after I had finished high school and since I met many girls during that time doing the same I had quite a good insight into those families where children had been brought up with Au Pairs and/or nannies. They had already seen so many care takers come and go during their short lifes that they didn't let anyone come close them anymore, they were quite disrespectful yet dependent on the nanny when it came to the easiest things (going to the loo on their own at the age of 7, cleaning up their rooms) and always felt that there was a "disturbing moment" = the nanny/housekeeper in the house.
    Nevertheless from my personal point of view it means that the person living with you is neither a part of the family and you will probably not having her join "the family" nor will she be just a "servant" since this would take us back to the ages of slavery. But it for sure is a person who will have to give up her life to a certain extend to "serve" your family and this is just something that I really have a problem with!!! Would be interested to hear your opinion about that.

    Part 1 of 2 ;-)

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  10. Part 2 of 2

    To make a long story short: Having a family includes stepping back one step out of the spotlight for a while and giving more that you might get back at the very same time. Don't get me wrong it - doesn't mean not having a life of your own (going to the gym/for a run, meeting friends) anymore but it craves more effort for sure to get everything to work out.

    I guess it might also have become a normal thing to you to be able to buy all this to be able to make your stressfull life work out since your man was obviously brought up this way and everybody around you is doing the same. But I would sometimes rather see you taking some of that money and giving it to the ones who're really in need of help (e.g. http://skitungarna2011.blogspot.de/) and to rather get to know "normal" people who with great organization of their lives get everything to work out and still be happy with energy left for their partner and their own interests (babysitter and/or help in the household sometimes is totally fine ;-)!

    Thank you for your openess and have a very merry Christmas!
    Yaca

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    1. Yaca: I've lived like your mother fort wo and a half year and we're managing very well. You don't need to tell me how it is to take care of a family with all that is combined - I've done it, more then most women since my man was actually only coming every second weekend during my pregnancy and in the weekends the whole first year of Alexis.

      I do understand your point, but I have to say that even if your mother could have gotten a little help, i'm sure she would gladly have taken it. I don't need to prove that I'm a super woman/mother - I already now what I am capable of by myself with one or two kids since I've done the journey already.

      Alexis has never gone to kindergarden which most kids to in for ex Sweden, that would have been easier for me but I chose to give him "me" instead and also neglected part of my life to give him what I found was important.

      Yes, me and my man are raised differently when it comes to help like this, and i have to say it 's much more common in genereal in areas outside Scandinavia. But I think it's marvellous to be able to get some help of the same person who actually becomes part of the family. And also a great way of doing hands on help for those less fortunate. These women comes from something less and here is a possibility to give her so much of value for her future, skills, language, seeing and getting to know another country, money to her and her family - what is wrong with that. It's charity but more hands on and helps all parts of it.

      And is less expensive for us to hiring someone living at us then paying some babysitter here and there since we're giving them a part of our life. It benefits everyone. If we would not have gotten this house, I would never even consider it, but since we have the possibility, I think it's beautiful how we can help each other.

      Most of my friends lives normal lives, just like us mostly and we all struggle with something. Men outside Sweden also work much more and the family is the one suffer from it, but it's impossible to change.

      This is not a contest on who is the best mother/women, it's about finding something that suits YOU! Without judging each other.

      My mother was just like your mother and that's how I'm raised, just like me until now.

      Hope this makes you see things less narrow.
      Best, stina

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    2. There are those strong women wbo have 2 children like yourself, working fulltime and without a man. That is admirable! It is strong what youre doing and I think every woman should get an appalud but you make it sound so exclusively. You wanted children and now you have it. Do you want to go back to work instead? Be greatful for your homecountry when you can get the föräldrapenning and stay home for such a long time because that would not have happened in other countries if you would like to go back to your career.

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    3. Dear Stina,

      hope you've had some lovely days between the years and thank you for reacting on my comment.

      Unfortunately whenever critical voices are raised, I get the impression that you take it as a scathing criticism to your life and parenting style. I don't find it very constructive to end your post saying that I should see things less narrow when I express my thoughts regarding my experiences. Having lived in different countries, having friends with different nationalities who raise their kids and currently myself not living in Sweden, I think I have quite a good knowledge (even if I can not know everything) about how parents are (not) supported in different systems. My impression is that....Methinks thou dost protest too much ;-)

      Of course you are free to choose whatever lifestyle you want to live and that you can afford but since a blog is, in my understanding a platform for communication and not only one way, I felt the urge to express my thoughts and share my expereinces althought they were not totally pro Stina.

      But what makes me really upset is the fact that you're trying (once again:only my personal perception) to make the hire of a housekeeper look like a charity project. Come on, this person has to give up her own life to life and serve you in order to probably support her family. And as I said I've never made the experience that a housekeeper/nanny becomes part of the family because she'll still be your employee to jump when you blow the whistle - no matter what. I've seen it a couple of times and the effects it had on the kiddos and I'm therefore stronly convinced that it's nothing to be recommended. Regarding my oponion this just doesn't belong in the 21th century - feel free to call me narrow minded for this conviction.

      To come to an end, and yes this part is personal, I'm convinced that everything works out just fine as long as each member is willing to make sacrifices personally and maybe even economically at a certain time for the sake of the family. Getting everything at the very same time has never been possible and I would rather temporarilly step back this one step (and even expect that from my man!!!) to raise my kids and enjoy the time and experience the world together - and may that require having sparkling water in my glass instead of some drops of Veuve Cliquot!
      But as stated before, these I are my very personal thoughts and I hope you can accept them.

      I wish you all the best for 2014 and may your life choices make you happy!
      Best
      Yaca

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  11. Dear Stina,
    congrats how you manage all that stuff going on at once. But looking forward to your new situation with help and I guess also maybe having your parents closer *blink* might make things easier as well.
    Similar situation here with the car: Our "family car" is a 911. I am already an expert in squeezing things in there but I am absolutely not looking forward to a 10day trip we planned in spring - by car of course ;-)
    Enjoy the beautiful coutry side in the alps and having family and friends around.
    Best wishes,
    Katharina

    PS Thanks for your very kind reply on my comment to the "my boys" post *blink*

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  12. Salut Stina! just wanted to wish you a lovely Chrismas time with your loved ones.
    Thanks again for your honesty in your blog;It's a plus!
    BTW, smart choice of Champagne: M&C Imperial is so pure in taste.Also guys, try the "Ruinart" one .not so well known as M&C but pretty amazing in the mouth.Joyeuses Fetes! Cath

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  13. Off topic, but my god how lovely little baby <3 You have such beautiful boys!

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  14. Hej Stina!
    Vad söker ni hos kvinnan som ska hjälpa till hos er? Jag är 25 år, utbildad sjuksköterska och har arbetat 2 år på barnsjukhuset i Malmö och arbetar numera på Capio Citykliniken. Jag är sugen på en förändring och att få jobba hos er hade varit spännande. Min mail; martina.schille@hotmail.com. God Jul!

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  15. Superfina bilder som alltid! I just want to state that I do not agree with the discussion above. My thoughts when reading Stinas blog (which (I have done since around 7 years) is that WOW how do you manage it all!!??? I have children the same age as Stina and sure, I live by myself with the kids BUT I nearly don't managee anything like Stina. To me you definitely are a supermom and superwomen and a great inspiration. I can hardly take care of my 2.room apartment and I am constantly in sweatpants and we eat crap... Stina has a beautiful apartment, is constantly hosting lunches and dinners, is back in shape (she was neveer out of shape, ha ah) great new clotehs. MAKING FREAKIN breakfast scones, and on top of this coordinates the great big MOVE, buys a house AND makes plans and packs for the alps AND takes care of two kids. In my life, I hardly take care of two kids. Reading this post, it strikes me that my toddler hardly ever gets to bath because there is no time or energy in the evenings, which I had that superlooking stokke bath!

    And, may I say, I am no freak. I am just saying, taking care of two kids is exhausting. And being a mom makes your own life disappears. IT IS OK!

    Stina doesn't complain anything!! You guys no nothing of what you talk about. I would rather say Stina manages a LOT more than most women and reading this post I thought to myself that wow, I really hope she has someone who helps her with all this.

    AND (again) you guys also know Stina has her headaces/migrän on top of this. I had an attack yesterday and my kids did nothing but watch dvd until the pain was gone. Stina - as I understand it - manages to go to dinners and so on even after a whole day of headache.

    I would more like to know - how do you manage? what is the secret trick? when do you sleep? and when do you find time to blog and take photos? do you ever just "freak out" and watch two seasons of Grey's anatomy?

    Lots of love, you are the best!

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  16. Superfina bilder som alltid! I just want to state that I do not agree with the discussion above. My thoughts when reading Stinas blog (which (I have done since around 7 years) is that WOW how do you manage it all!!??? I have children the same age as Stina and sure, I live by myself with the kids BUT I nearly don't managee anything like Stina. To me you definitely are a supermom and superwomen and a great inspiration. I can hardly take care of my 2.room apartment and I am constantly in sweatpants and we eat crap... Stina has a beautiful apartment, is constantly hosting lunches and dinners, is back in shape (she was neveer out of shape, ha ah) great new clotehs. MAKING FREAKIN breakfast scones, and on top of this coordinates the great big MOVE, buys a house AND makes plans and packs for the alps AND takes care of two kids. In my life, I hardly take care of two kids. Reading this post, it strikes me that my toddler hardly ever gets to bath because there is no time or energy in the evenings, which I had that superlooking stokke bath!

    And, may I say, I am no freak. I am just saying, taking care of two kids is exhausting. And being a mom makes your own life disappears. IT IS OK!

    Stina doesn't complain anything!! You guys no nothing of what you talk about. I would rather say Stina manages a LOT more than most women and reading this post I thought to myself that wow, I really hope she has someone who helps her with all this.

    AND (again) you guys also know Stina has her headaces/migrän on top of this. I had an attack yesterday and my kids did nothing but watch dvd until the pain was gone. Stina - as I understand it - manages to go to dinners and so on even after a whole day of headache.

    I would more like to know - how do you manage? what is the secret trick? when do you sleep? and when do you find time to blog and take photos? do you ever just "freak out" and watch two seasons of Grey's anatomy?

    Lots of love, you are the best!

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