Wednesday, December 11, 2013

My boys

Finally it arrived, the "winter kit" from Stokke for our pram. It's actually for the model of Xplory, but I've manage to make it work for our sibling Crusi also. No more cold hands, no more cold baby ... I also got them each a fur skin to sit on (yes, Leon will probably change to the sitting part in February). We will also try one of these cool things for Alexis to stand on, like a skateboard for kids but integrated with the pram.
Yes, we love Stokke. Their stylish design, the engineering mind behind everything and the practicality.
A newly bathed little chubby Leon.
They're interacting more and more with each other which makes my heart MELT! Can't wait until the day when I have my two energetic boys playing in the backyard of our garden while I'm in the kitchen cooking and watching them through our windows!
All details coming into our home is most often analysed through my picky eyes. It has to go with the environment, it needs to fill a purpose and look good. I rather have a few nice things then a lot of everything. It's so important for me since my aesthetic mind never rest and I love seeing pretty things all around me. So even Alexis' pyjamas needs to be environment friendly.
My mother has been the one providing us with the cutest of them since Alexis was a baby, but now he's using two pieces instead of one full body one and I already got him a grey one in the softest flannel with small dogs on, and this I could not resist. A light blue/white, in a classic model which is a pleasure for the eyes to see when he is wearing it! Love it. Can be found here.
Saying "good night" to my sister Lissie every night through a picture next to his bed. I also got the white and quite elegant bed sets from here to his bed and a bed cover in white with the same fine structure on it.
And Little Leon's new ski suit which is so perfect for the baby carrier or just in the pram. I love the shiny dark colour and the fur hood! He hardly needs a hat when wearing it!
.. and of course he wants to do everything we as parents do; so wearing high heels, trying mascara, combing his hair like papa etc etc
So as I've mentioned before, (sometimes it feels like all I do is repeating myself) it's a hard job being a stay at home mother, but the loveliest. Don't know how I will survive the day I will start working again and the kids are both in kindergarden? I will miss this life so much i assume, yet it will be another chapter, another page and hopefully I will really enjoy it too. Maybe more since the time together is less? I don't know but I'm trying to enjoy every little second that we have together, us three, during the days and trying to neglect all the more negative feelings (frustration, tiredness, tantrums etc) and just look at the wonderful ones which is pure happiness and joy.
It's really an amazing opportunity I've had to be home this long and raising my kids, 24/7 by myself. I can see what an impact that have had on Alexis and I am so happy for it. The only thing I really miss, is more time for our relationship. At the moment it feels like M and me more running a family company rather then a romantic relationship. But we soon have a solution for that, in Mars it should be better! Looking so much forward!

Please share with me your own experiences on life as parents, how to get time for one another and just how to get it all together! I would love to take part of your story!






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  1. Dear Stina, I've been following your blog for sometime and feel compelled to finally make comment. I thoroughly enjoy your post with your lovely photos. Your two boys are so adorable, and I know at times it can be overwhelming, but you and your boys gain so much from this. My children are grown and I so miss my times as a stay at home mom, the years fly by with a blink of the eye. Enjoy your precious family while they are young! You are doing the most important job right now :)
    Looking forward to your future posts. Warmly, Simone

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    1. Thank you for this, EVERY day I tell myself that there will be a time in the future when I will probably recognise this time as the best in my life, so I truly try to see beyond all the frustrations from time to time and just enjoy it. And since I'm chaining my mind int hat and trying to see even the more irritating moment as precious, they've become less. The law of Attractions is once again working for my benefit.
      Best,
      stina

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  2. Beautiful little guys!!!!
    Alexis' hair is curling??? Yours also Stina?
    It's nice really. Uta

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    1. I was about to ask the same, Uta :) It is sooo charming with those blonde curls, and that smile! xx J

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    2. Yes Dear Uta and Johanne, he has "wavy" hair with small curls here and there, just like me and his uncle!

      Hugs to both of you!
      Stina

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  3. Dear Stina, I really love your blog! I love your Style and I really like your posts of your family. I think that you are a role model for many, many women! Best wishes, Laura

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    1. That is so kind of you to say and I would be humble in my task if that was the case!!!

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  4. What precious days these are, I so miss the times when my children were young. My son is now 20 and your pictures remind me so much of those baby and toddler days, I had my son and my older daughter 2 years later, and then another daughter 7 years after that. I have never stopped being a stay at home Mom, with my husband's busy career it made the most sense for our family. It's been wonderful. My son lives at University and my two girls are still home, they are now 11 and 18 and such a joy, it never stops being fun, it just changes as they grow and it is fascinating to watch them develop and grow.
    My husband and I have certainly had family stress but we often take the time to go out just the two of us, for me to get dressed up and go to meet my husband once a week for dinner has been such a treat, we've done that for years. I highly recommend it.
    I have to tell you I really admire your aesthetic sense and to be picky is a good thing, to have less things of good quality is a goal of mine as well.
    I really enjoy the photos and progress of your boys, thanks for sharing. They are completely adorable!

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    1. Wow, what an amazing opportunity!

      I can so imagine the wonderful feelings you describe with the daughters still being at home! It's so fascinating seeing your own children's development!

      We should do that too, me and M, but our nanny at the time can not be here in the evenings since she has own children - and a babysitter is very, very expensive in Switzerland and eating out as well .
      - sometimes I just feel that the amount of money for having me and M for a dinner, is just so ridiculous and not even worth it.

      Thank you!
      Stina

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  5. Stina your blog is amazing.I am checking few times per years for news post.This blog is diffrent from another like fashion from Zara,I love read post about your life,how you decorate you home,how you spent time with child.I have son on March he is turning 3 years old.your blog inspiring me.If I can I have 2 question to to you.How looks your daily routine with your childs like what you are doing, how you play with them?and another one about your English is so good and i want know did you learn english from your school only or maybe some other ways like private lessons with native soeakres,books? Maybe you can recomend some books or ways how you learn another language,

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    1. Dear Sylwia,

      In sweden we learn English from 4th grade and since my family always travelled, it improved. I was never shy of practising it either, even though I new it was far from perfect. I also had my friends in international schools in Stockholm and we actually spoke English with each other because we though we were cool! He, he he ...

      I will write a post about my daily routines since you are not the first to ask!

      So grateful to have wonderful readers as yourself as followers! Thank you!

      The advice for practising your English is to look at films in English, preferably with English text also so you both hear and see the pronunciation of English! And read English children's books that are not too complicated, maybe for the age of 12 years?

      Best,
      stina

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  6. Sorry for mistake i am checking few times per day for new post

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  7. I think it is inevitable that you lose something of yourself as a couple while your children are young. Children are so absorbing and it is too easy not to address the needs of others who are capable of looking after themselves. I think it's important to maintain the 'spark' or the connection. I find people who don't tend to drift apart and forget why they loved each other so much in the first instance. On rough days, I try to imagine myself in 15 years time, when I have one child at university and one in high school and all they want from me is a sandwich and a quick chat and I will miss the days I was tripping over them holding on to me saying 'Mummy, Mummy, Mummy, Mummy' till I almost wanted to scream! These days of endless stories, craft activities, park visits, aborted shopping trips and endless small frustrations of little people exploring their world are really so fleeting. The days are long but the years fly by.....

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    1. CD - very very true. Spot on actually!

      When we move to our house, we will actually have a lady living with us and helping with most things necessary in a house and with children. I am to start working in Aug-Sep next year and we need her for everything. M will also be gone one week every second week and she will help me at those times. I am sure life will be easier and M and me can have a spontaneous lunch for example when we want since she is part of our life.

      Thank you fro sharing your life story!

      Best,
      stina

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  8. Beautiful photos - especially of Alexis and Leon holding hands. It really resonated with me when you said you look forward to the day of watching them playing while cooking dinner and what a lovely image that is. My boys are 10 and 3, when my husband and I decided it was time to start a family we conceived the first within 2 months, but the second one took years and years. We just assumed it would be as easy the 2nd time around, but no. So just before my 40th birthday I decided I was very happy and blessed to have 1 child and I would leave it at that, but within weeks I found out I was pregnant with the 2nd boy, a little stunner I might add! I was cooking dinner yesterday (and looking out the kitchen window) at the 2 of them building a snowman in the backyard, and felt the tears welling up in my eyes and thought I would burst with happiness. I am truly blessed and haven't forgotten it for one single second. Anyhow... it's an image one can take a mental snapshot of and have for a lifetime. :-)

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    1. Om My! Got me all wet in my eyes! Such a beautiful story!

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  9. Hi Stina,

    your boys are so cute and lovely. Thank you so much for sharing these moments of family happiness with us :-)
    I guess keeping the sparkle while having kids and being busy with keeping everything running is the biggest challenge in those years. I am married since a few months (our daughter is 7 now) and I am almost on daily basis thinking about what is the secret of "preserving" the happiness of this wunderful time. I have not found a distinct answer to this question but I think that it always depends on the circumstances which are somehow changing all the time as our busy lifes are. Maybe already the time thinking and caring about this questions shows already its priority to us and prevents us from taking everything as granted.
    My ideal imagination was to have this one evening per week to go out as couple. But since we are both working full time and there are so many obligations - job- and familywise - throughout the week, we just do not manage and it was even stressing me to have one more fixed date per week that needed to be organized. On top of it, cosy family evenings mostly are our priority :-)
    We keep a family calender which not only is crucial for running the whole family business but also shows us when there would be time to to something in 2 and so we surprise each other with opera/concert tickets or spontaneous dinners and since these are exceptional we enjoy it even more <3 we try to have a weekend alone 1-2 times per year but it does not always work to find time for it.
    But most important I think is to keep some romance during everyday life. We always talk and laugh a lot and we enjoy everday we have each other and let the other one know that we do so. we surprise each other with simple things: bringing the favorite chocolate tarte when being in the city, lovely messages thoughout the day and stuff like this. this year I got again an adventcalendar filled by my husband with nice surprises like my favorite chocolates or my favorite beauty products (he knows my nr1 place to buy stuff like this and then goes there for shopping - so cute *blink). I think it is the tiny things in our everyday llife that make us keeping the sparkle while running a family at the same time. Because times will change when we are not parents at the first place but will have more time for each other and it is getting easier as kids are getting older. But of course we will miss other things then that we have now when the joy of family life sometimes is overwhelming us.
    I hope this was not too much and chaotic writing *blink
    Enjoy your wunderful life, dear Stina. Both you and M can be proud of having such a lovely family.
    Hugs,
    Katharina

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    1. Katarina - Thank you for this well formulated and warm comment.

      I think you are so right, it's wrong when a "date" becomes just another stress and that's a little bit what I am feeling right now. Read the comments above to understand. It's ridiculously expensive with babysitters here and eating out as well, so sometimes it's just not worth rushing somewhere to eat and well, you understand.

      But soon we will have a better solution for our life.

      I also think just like you, that the every day romance is crucial, the small notes, being kind and understanding towards each other etc etc. I tend to talk a lot with M, as soon as I feel that we're not "synced" I bring it up and we talk. First he thought it was too much, but now he see what a difference it makes!

      Thank you for this comment!
      Best,
      stina

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  10. I actually don´t have a child at the moment, so i can hardly give you any advice!Love the selection of pictures. Do you own a "Thermomix"?Sorry for that strange question but i was sure that on the last picture with Alexis on the right side is one.Just hat to laugh…because i never thought that you would have one;)I love it so much, have you ever made christmas almonds in it?Turly delicious.
    Lots of text which doesn't belong to the question of you!
    Sorry, Stina!
    Hugs,
    Lena ;)

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    1. Yes we do! A present form my mother in Law! I mainly use it for smoothies but I know you can cook in it but somewhat it feels weird cooking with a machine? Any advice?

      Best,
      stina

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  11. I was a stay at home mum for my two boys. Sure it was often very exhausting, because we had no babysitter or grandma nearby, but I was so extremely happy at that time that I didn't recognize it. Combining job and family was not easy in Germany some years ago. Kindergarten started at the age of four, and only in the morning from 8-12am...
    By the way, I just noticed your nice video on Instagram. You are very pretty, but what I loved most was your happy and radiant face :-). Hugs B.

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    1. Germany some years ago is what it's like in Switzerland now! Even when the children starting going to school for the full day, they have a two hour lunch break when they are supposed to go home and eat lunch at home! (as my mother said, it's like Stockholm when she was a child in the 1950s!)

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    2. Yes, this is SWitzerland now. Very un modern in that sense! The children even need to go home for lunch!!!! I mean, how can you ever combine that with a job?

      But I am so happy now anyhow and understand that this time of life is one of the best in life!!!

      Best,
      stina

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  12. Oh it's so an exhausting, demanding but wonderfully rewarding time. We are so lucky to be able to enjoy this magical time with our children. My oldest is turning three soon and my youngest is seven months so I know how you feel! My husband and I work hard to make time for just us, it's not easy when you live away from grandparents but last year our New Year's resolution was to have a dinner or evening or afternoon out just the two of us at least once a month and it has been the best (and most enjoyable!) resolution I have ever made. We are also strict about the kids be being in bed and asleep by 8pm (even the baby!) so that we have time alone every evening to talk and enjoy one another.

    P.S. I'm searching for a fur trimmed winter coat in Zurich (collar and cuffs)- do you have any tips on where to look?

    Thank you
    Carin

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    1. Well done for you as a couple! And congratulations to the new little member! Then we understand each other completely!

      On Bahnhofstrasse there's a lot of fur shops, especially close to Burkliplats but they are all VERY expensive. Else, try Grieder, Vestibuli, Fidelio or just by the collar and cuffs at Jelmoli's main departments floor where they sell scarfs! They have them in normal colours, blue, black etc

      Best,
      stina

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  13. I am also alone, but I have kindergarden for my eldest, What I don't understand and what would be interesting to here is how you can cope with two kids when you have headache? When I have my headaches I need to lye down or eat strong medicins, and I definitely can not take care of my kids - emergency solution is to put on a DVD. But you seem to do great even with head aches, how is this? How often and for how long do you get migrane these days? Can you "live as ususal" while you have it? What is the secret?

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  14. Can you take care of the kids while you have your head aches / migrän? When I have a head ache attack I need to rest and usually the whole day is ruined, but you seem to go on as usual even with a strong headache? How can you manage?

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    1. On no, hardly. When I have my migraine attics I am like a handicapped person BUT this has happened a few times with both children and before the time M can come home I just put both children in the sofa in front of a film and try to survive, breast feeding Leon until M can take them.

      My every day head ache is worse, but what can you do except just handle it. But Alexis in front of Lady & the Tramps has happened many many times becasue of this and Leon is mostly just happy with being close to me so I can rest at the same time.
      Very often I have to take strong medicine and then I need to pump my milk the whole day.

      Good Luck!
      Stina

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  15. Hi Stina,

    You have a very lovely blog, and adorable boys :) I also have a son, 8 month now. I just wanted to know how you managed to make the winter kit fit on the stokke crusi? I mean the handmuff. I have the winter kit but its so sad that i can't use the handmuff on our crusi. I hope you can tell me how you did. Thanks a lot. You can reply in swedish if you like to ;)

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