Thursday, March 6, 2014

Never fit in


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  1. Must say, you also look great with longer hair...as here....!

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    1. Thank you, but I prefer the shorter all the time on me!

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  2. bullshit...SORRY, but this is a very stupid sentence....Elisabeth II, Queen Victoria, Indira Gandhi, Jacky Kennedy, Michelle Obama.........and and and.... are very behaved woman.

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    1. Ha, ha ha ha .... And you don't think all of them have/had a less polished side? Well, J:K was a huge drug addict and very flirty it's been said and probably had so much more fun when she wasn't in the "behaved" spotlight. You have to realise that a presidential wife is the synonymous of "perfection" ... - on the outside. But we're all humans.

      The best part of being a woman, is that nothing excludes each other. You can be both good and bad, light and dark, sophisticated but bold.

      I think women should enjoy their liberty and always remember that we have ONE life! Dare to take risks, do what you want and never strive to just "fit in".

      Best,
      stina

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    2. Stina, I respect your opinion, and that of others. However, when your "opinion" is one of false statements, then I must step up. You are wrong about JK (Jackie Kennedy?). A "huge drug addict"? How classless of you, not to mention slanderous.
      Cynthia

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    3. @Stina: what does that, what you write, has to do with the 'sentence'. how do you see women?

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    4. Classless??? Slanderous ??? I guess you have to be one to say such a thing.........

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    5. Anonymous @stina - not sure I understood the question? How I see women?

      - Well, as free spirit, strong minded, warm, thoughtful, who should have the sort of freedom and self assurance to do what they feel like without thinking about the societies "rules" for how to be. I love unique women, women who stand for something, who is passionated about something or why not life - who DO NOT look down on other women, different from themselves.
      Unfortunately, a lot of women are very insecure and that's why a sentence like this make these sort a little nervous.

      J:K, Diana, Grace Kelly - all were much more then what you saw on the surface. Read about it or if you don't believe in what someone is stating in a book/biography/documentary, think about it. And that's what makes them a role model, interesting, someone to look up to - because they were everything, but far from perfect.
      Who on earth strives to be perfect now a days anyways? Again, perfect is boring! Personality, your own mind, your own life, your own thoughts and life choices - that's what makes a human interesting! All of these women that someone stated above, were all doing their own things, in their own way and they were not only Good Girls. It's so narrow minded to thinks so and very old fashioned and conservative.

      Anonymous - Classless and slanderous is words that I never use and it's not in my vocabulary - small minded, unrealistic, frighten, low self-esteem, un-mature and un-educated is though.

      I hope we could all accept one another for who we are and not look down on those different from yourself.

      Best,
      stina

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    6. Actually it's immature, not un-mature

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    7. Really,Stina? "Small minded, unrealistic, low self-esteem, un-mature (sic), and un-educated(sic)"? Cheap shot. Slanderous is saying something that is not true, which is also damaging. Since you claim to be none of those (ahem), cite your references that Jackie Kennedy was a "huge drug addict".
      Cynthia

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  3. Håller fullständigt med dig Stina. One Life - Live it!!
    Way to go tou fantastic woman ;-D!
    //Nina

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  4. Love your attitude Stina and the picture is beautiful!

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  5. What is the title referring to? I think you have chosen the most safe and traditional life with no risks involved: stay at home mother with husband as a provider.. hmm.. ? /Anna

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    1. So you think Stina shows us all her life her or even 90% of it? Of course not:::))) But many women get intimidated by a comment like this and they do all to fit in a be a god girl and look down on everyone else.......that is just bad./L

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    2. Anna: If that's what you see, then it must be the truth right?

      Anonymous: Amen. I mean, I don't even know what to respond to a comment like the one above. It takes too much energy.

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    3. @ Anonymous March 6, 2014 at 10:44 PM; True - what's shown, however litte it may be, show a life without little risk in comparison to someone braking barriers....

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    4. @anonymous + @anonymous: I see the totally opposite, a strong minded, untraditional women who is a stay at home mother for the sake of here two very young children. She will probably take up her career sooner then later or do anything else after. She moved to another country, meet a guy abroad and got pregnant instantly after trying for years with another man, have been through a divorce, been with one of her sons pretty much by herself more then one year, been a specialist on TV and lots of news papers in Sweden, published a friendship advertisement in Switzerland and run this blog with all of thing going on at the same time.......i would not call her average......she inspires to go our own way whatever people may think or say. Thank you Stina for sharing a little of your life. Good or bad side! Thank you!

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    5. @ AnonymousMarch 7, 2014 at 9:59 PM: Still nothing uncommon.

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  6. Have to agree with Stina regarding the JK debate. Her life was far from what the public saw. Jackie barely spent any time at white house

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    1. For sure it was! It's proven, so was the case with her husband also which one can totally understand! Being a world leader over one of our biggest nation and being a woman who people need to be "perfect" - would put many people on drugs or get them depressed. It's women like some in this comment field, that made J:K feel the way she did, because people didn't allow her to be who she was. They wanted her to be a Good Girl, perfect, without flaws. If she would have shown the world that she came with a full package, they would break her even more. She hated her role at the end and so does most people in a position like her.
      It might be glamorous from the beginning, but the dark side is to hard to live with.

      Best,
      stina

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  7. Not sure that my comment left dear Stina! Il will see and write again if never.
    Uta

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  8. Live and let die?

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  9. Anonymous: Stina is correct about Jacqueline Kennedy and the use of drugs, together with John F Kennedy she used cocaine and that is no big news today, I am surprised that you seemed so surprised about that..

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  10. And btw, this quote is very famous, I think is was words by Marilyn Monroe.
    I have a new quote for you Stina; "Be happy it drives people crazy" ;-)

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  11. I LOVE it! makes me wanna take a selfie and post this sentence on my IG.
    Beautiful woman, Lovely picture, GREAT attitude.
    /Rima

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  12. All of these "bad behaved" women ( Marilyn, Jackie, Grace, Diana) did leave their life throw men. Alone they wouldn't manage. They all were addicted to have a man (a cheating one) and they were unhappy and mentally disable when not having one. It was better to have one who cheats or is somebody else husband then be alone. Usually people just want to see more happy side and admire their sexuality and good look but in fact these all women were mentally and some even physically abused.

    And were they really behaving bad? Not really, they all were actually nice girls. Nice girls who were a bit simple. Maybe they all got a rich and powerful husband but those men really didn't love these women.These women were nice puppets to their husbands and enough good with their behaving and enough modest that they were quiet when their husbands didn't care, cheat or abuse about them. Of course books want to give a picture about independent mind but let's see Jackie...she even did marry Onassis who did want to marry Jackie only because of her state to be ex-presidents wife and so being valuable because of business...

    I admire their looks but I wouldn't like to be any of them and for that those quotes related them are not really good neither. I would more use a classic quote "simplicity is the ultimate sophistication". It fits also to your picture. I can't really make a relation between quote you use and a picture.

    Of course there is bad behaved women like Virginia Woolf who actually did change world but I think that is not a right role model here in this site:)

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    1. Grace? Oscar winner before she met Rainer...!!!

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    2. Is winning the Oscar making you bad behaving? Grace did give up her carrier and awesome independent life because of Rainer. Grace made her star with good behavior not bad. But she did get miserable in her marriage quite soon because of cheating husband and did start to behave bad like many other trophy wives, that didn't make her star or anything. Just miserable. People really don't remember her as shining part of Monaco only that glorious part where she was still nice in Hollywood. And I'm not sure if her actually bad behaving daughter Stephanie is any role model for anybody.That is a woman who is behaving bad;)

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  13. My dear Stina by all your answers to certain comments, it was exactly what I was saying! So dont need to write it again, as usual I completely agree with you!
    Spend a fantastic week end with your LOVE.
    Uta

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  14. I agree with you too Stina. Perfection is so totally boring, and it's our flaws and "quirks" that are so magnetic and captivating. We are all human after all, which means we are imperfect. When I think about it, I found Diana and Jackie O far more fascinating when I found out they were really "just like us" when it comes to tapping in to their wild side. Coco Chanel was another rebel, and I love her. Nothing worse in the world than a flat non dimensional character! Another thing to remember as some people are getting so worked up over this - we are not glorifying women who did something shocking or unforgivable, we're talking about simple good old fashioned bad behavior (now and again)! Women misbehaving has been around since the beginning of time and isn't going anywhere, anytime soon. Amen to that!

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  15. it's interesting the amount of debate that this has raised, i am sure it was just a throw-away comment on a beautiful photograph....but....when you think about it, well-behaved women might not make history, but they have happy families, secure children, good relationships with other people and tend to live to a happy and comfortable old-age....although all of us like to think we are a little badly behaved, even if it is just an extra glass of champagne on a night out! Everything in moderation!

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    1. ......some out there seems to take this to personal! I agree with you Alexandra!!!!! I loved the text and the photo but dont think she meant every word of it more a little fun thing to write. ;)

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  16. Are you hinting that you do not behave well and you will make history?

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    1. Seriously, why even bother? Stina probably wrote this as an inspirational text for us all and now she needs to stand up for all icons out there. Don't be so serious guys!!!.......

      Ciao//Bea

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  17. F**k "Lagom" - Go big or go home!!

    Tack för en väldigt bra blogg!

    Emeli

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  18. I love a bit of intellectual rigor, most blog comments are no more controversial than 'love you dress' well done Stina for starting a debate, and for those that put across the other side without vitriol or bad language, makes the blog world a much more interesting place to be!

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  19. And everyone forgot to wish a good day to all women in the world yesterday as it was the Day of the Women....
    So hope you all enjoyed your day yesterday!
    Best
    Uta

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  20. Some girls here need to step out of their comfort zone!

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  21. And you to return to your way of life......

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  22. Alltså varför blev alla så upprörda för detta?! Det stämmer väl ändå rätt bra....
    Kör på Stina!
    Kram

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  23. I see the point you are trying to get across! But from a philosophical point of view, what does it mean to be well-behaved? In my opinion it is synonymous to fit into the norms of the society and context you live in, do what is expected of you and not to make a scene. To break the norms can sometimes be good (be yourself, make your own path in life) or negative (be a criminal, be irresponsible of other persons). It would be interesting to hear other readers view on this thought!

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    1. Break the norms is something else then behaving bad;)

      I take this post as teenage humor like "good girls go to heaven, bad girls go everywhere" Not any real meaning but feeling rebel without any meaning to really be like that, just feeling.

      I feel free and rebel every Spring for a moment. Then my youngest one comes with a smelling diaper...;)

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