Thursday, August 14, 2014

In need of a little help!

So when you're all discussing politics, consumption, luxury habits, overflow, the unbalance of this world, segregations and unfairness here at the blog (love it and will dig in to it as soon as I find the time and energy) - I'm trying to sort our life out which is very up and down right now. So many things just don't work out for us right now and one of the things being that our very needed nanny help, is still stuck in Russia and the Swedish migrations have taken summer vacation and nothing gets done over there.
Just don't get me started on how the Swedish migration can be so %&€*& but it's three month now since we applied for a work Visa and no one can even give me an answer on when they will start the progress!?
The contact person I've got has a available phone time every day between 10-11am, but even though I call every day about 20 times, she never answers. I mean, it's so frustrating, not to mention unprofessional and plan and simple STUPID.

Problem being that we need help with Leon, since he is so small I only want him to attend kindergarden a couple of hours per day and for me to be able to work at least 5-6 hours per day, we need someone taking care of his little chubby and sunshine being. But no. M just got back from Geneva and everything feels very unstable and half chaotic.

So why am I telling you all of this? Well since we're sort of desperate, I kindly ask for help from this source. If there's anyone who have any good contact at the Swedish Migrations, please email me stina_auer@live.se and maybe you can help me at least talk to the right person. It would be so appreciated and very kind!

Talk soon!


65 comments:

  1. Hej
    RIng inte. Skicka en old fashioned brev som är en inkommen handling och de har SKYLDIGHET att svara på. Ställ ett tydlig krav på vad du vill ha svar på. Ställ krav avseende handläggningstider som är ett hot mot din rättssäkerhet. Hota med att JO anmäla dem om de inte behandlar ditt brev. Det är min erfarenhet av både anställd på en svensk myndighet samt medborgare i detta land. Vanesa

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  2. Hej Stina! Nu kommer du inte att få det svar du vill ha, tyvärr. Jag som chef har en medarbetare (också ryss) som studerade här i Sverige och vid sin examen erbjöds jobb hos oss och fick då ett tillfälligt uppehållstillstånd. Sedan har det förlängts med två år åt gången och varje gång har tiden för tillstånd tagit allt längre tid: först 3 månader, sedan 8 månader och nu sist 11 månader då han ansökte om permanent tillstånd. Migrationsverket är väl just nu väldigt belastade avseende den stora flyktingtillströmningen som är. Så trots att jag arbetar på en stor arbetsgivare med 2500 medarbetare så kunde inte vi heller utöva några påtryckningar.

    Det som dock hjälpte bäst tyckte jag var att ringa till det numret som finns för arbetsgivare (står på hemsidan) och mata in ärendenumret. Då kom man fram och fick i alla fall prata med någon som kunde berätta om de åtminstone tittat på papperet. Så ring inte en specifik handläggare som inte svarar utan det numret. Har du handläggarens namn kan du ju däremot maila förnamn.efternamn@migrationsverket.se

    Om väntetider: http://www.migrationsverket.se/Privatpersoner/Arbeta-i-Sverige/Vantetider.html

    Så det borde ju gå fort första gången, förutsatt att en webansökan gjordes. Men, de är som sagt oerhört känsliga för felaktigt ifyllda ansökningar och då tar det tid. Så tipset är väl att ringa och fråga vad som eventuellt saknas.

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    1. Ohhh, yes I've heard stories like that!

      I know that the refugees are taking a lot of time, as they should, but very kind to write this long comment! Appreciate it!

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  3. Skicka ett brev/e-post, då måste det registreras som inkommen handling. Hänvisa till förvaltningslagens 7§:http://www.notisum.se/rnp/sls/lag/19860223.HTM

    Alternativt ring växeln och be att få tala med handläggarens chef.

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  4. Är det inte bättre med en svensk nanny istället? Med tanke på lady M ni hade som var asiatisk och som fick sparken? Grejen med de ni tar in kanske är olämpliga och sticker så fort de får uppehållstillstånd i Sverige. Men ni kanske inte har råd med en svensk nanny?

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  5. Har du tänkt på att anställa en svensk nanny? Det är klart att det är dyrare än att importera en kvinna från ett fattigare land som inte kanske har möjligheter att ställa samma krav på lön, arbetsmiljö, och rättigheter, men det kanske kan vara värt att betala en skälig lön som personen kan försörja sig på här i Sverige.

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  6. Varför envisas ni med att ta in en nanny från utlandet?

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  7. Jag skulle rekommendera en au pair istället som kan hjälpa till med det du beskriver ovan. Har en vän som är väldigt nöjd med aupair-world.net där hon har hittat sin au pair. Hoppas att situationen löser sig för er snabbt. Mvh Hanna

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  8. I understand your frustration with your application taking a long time and of course you should recieve and answer when you call. But if you read the news every now and then (since you're so into politics) you might understand why the migration is so busy. I will give you a hint if you still don't know: Syria.

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    1. I'm well aware of that. Though this is two different departments handling two different subjects. The refugees should of course be prioritised, but what I've understood, it's not the same people working with those two different subjects.

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    2. Jag har en bekant som jobbar på Migrationsverket och de är så upptagna med flyktingströmmarna från Syrien och Irak just nu att i princip all personal används för att hantera detta! Då får nannys och arbetstillstånd stå åt sidan...Du/ni får nog ställa in dig på att lösa situationen akut på annat sätt!

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  9. Hej!

    Satsa på att en barnskötare som är svensk medborgare på de timmar som behövs så länge, då jag av erfarenhet vet att sådana här ärenden kan dra ut på tiden. Förklara bara situationen för henne/honom; att det är ett litet tillfälligt jobb. När äntligen allt pappersarbete är klart, kör ni som det var tänkt från början. Alternativet är att ha minstingen fler timmar på fsk, även om det tar emot,. En del har inget val och det kan faktiskt fungera jättebra. Behöver inte vara något dåligt. (Talar även här av erfarenhet.) Det är inte alltid man får plats i tid heller, utan får lösa på annat sätt, så ni är inte ensamma i att ha barnpassningsdilemman.
    Lycka till! :)
    Bella

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    1. We are on it Bella! Just put adds up and emailed some out there that works shorter periods. Thank you! Cross my fingers!

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    2. Var så god, Stina! Hoppas det löser sig!! :)
      Kram på dig!
      Bella

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  10. Hej stina, tyvärr inga kontakter heller men behöver du hjälp under tiden så är Charlies bästa änglar www.charliesbastaanglar.se lycka till!

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  11. Kan inte alls förstå att ni inte tar en svenskt barnflicka/nanny/barnvakt finns ju flera agenturer i Stockholmsområdet och varför inte som ngn skrev nyttja den svenska arbetskraft som finns med alla dess fördelar/rättigheter. Varför envisas med att ta hit någon från Ryssland speciellt om det är så otroligt krångligt som det verkar vara. Tråkigt att det drar ut på tiden men all respekt för att Migrationsverket har otroligt mkt att handlägga med den befintliga flyktingströmmen som
    Finns.

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  12. I need a crash course in Swedish!

    Tabitha

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    1. Dear Tabitha,

      Not sure you would be amused, but it's reality and it is what it is. Use Google translate if you're curious! Blink

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  13. Ett annat tips är att hitta barnflicka inom EU.
    Lisbeth

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    1. I know! But now we've gone so far with this one and she seems so good! She speaks fluent English, is very used to small children, kind, seems honest and we brought her here for a whole days intervju ...

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  14. Är det svårt är det nog inte rätt väg. Släpp denna. Visualisera något annat. En annan lösning. En vardag där allt flyter och du kan gå till jobbet och känns dig trygg med att barnen har det bra. Då händer det. Jag tror också du behöver en övergångslösning. Finns massor med bra svenska tjejer, komma typ grannar.se eller kanske "ring en pensionär". Det kanske är en mysigt dam som är det rätta? Lycka till! Kram

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    1. Katti, funny that you mention this but you DON'T know how many times I though just that. It's too complicated, something is wrong, the universe is trying to show you just that ...

      We'll see, having your words in my mind!
      Thank you! Really! Sometimes one needs to be reminded of whats very clear.

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    2. I googled Ring en pensionär ... I would love a older woman picking him up and cosy with him for some hours. Was that a service that exist or not???

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    3. I think it is Seniorkraft:
      http://www.senior-kraft.se/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=147&Itemid=217

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    4. Sorry, det kan ha varit Seniorkraft. "Ring en pensionär" fanns iaf förr i den kommun som jag tror du bor i. De hjäpte mina vänner med trädgårdsarbete, typ skära grenar och så. Men jag vet faktiskt inte om det finns idag. Jag tänkte ju bara att det måste ju finnas massor med trevliga äldre damer som är pensionärer och har lust att ta hand om barn lite tills ni hittar rätt au pair.. Hoppas det löser sig!

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  15. Har en vännina från Argentina som var i en liknande situation. Hon ville naturligtvis ha någon som pratade argentinsk spanska med barnen och ville samtidigt ge en ung argentinska en chans att se världen. Det hon gjorde var att hon bad italienska släktingar skaffa visum till Italien vilket gick väldigt fort. Sen fick tjejen lön etc i Italien. Din man kan kanske fixa något liknande via Schweiz?

    Ge dig inte, hoppas du hittar en väg att ta henne hit.

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    1. Hm, we already looked at that but we did something similar when we lived there, it was complicated let's say that ...

      But thank you!

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  16. Varför inte ha honom längre på förskolan. Utbildade pedagoger är väl superbra att ta hand om era barn? Med en nanny blir det ju en vuxen till för barnen att förhålla sig till under en dag. Mvh cecilia

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    1. I know and this kindergarden seems so nice. But my motherly heart think he is too young for long days!

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  17. To EVERYONE:

    - Why don't we take a Swedish nanny?
    Because we want someone to come and live with us, help all the time when needed and no, a Swedish nanny is far too expensive. When someone lives at our home and we provide everything she needs to live here, it's cheaper and more value for money. We don't need to book her in from this time to that time, it's more flexible and she can be free when we don't need her or if she has something she wants to do, she just tell us in advance. If I would like to take a Power Walk with my man at 11pm in the evening, I can because we have a grown up staying in our house to make sure everything is fine. We want the freedom. We want someone to follow us if necessary when we travel, who is a part of our household, a helping member who becomes close to us and the children.

    - Why do you take a foreigner? - We want someone who speaks perfect English (since that's our family language at home) and I also like the fact that many of these girls comes from less fortunate countries and this is a great opportunity for them to learn, get experience and then when they return, they can go elsewhere or have better opportunities for studies and job. We help her, she help us. We are very generous and kind and if she does a good job and helping us, we'll be pleased to help her in any way we can!
    I also think it's fun with a different culture, our Russian girl loves to cook and I can't wait to try some nice Russian meatballs, Borscht or any other interesting cultural fascinations.

    Hope you understand,
    stina

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  18. Good luck Stina all i can send you is a little prayer and hope that it all works out!Hugs...

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  19. I am just wondering why your parents can't help out in such a delicate situation?

    I don't even want to get myself into this discussion around 'modern slavery' again since you're having your views and experiences and I'm having mine and we tried to discuss this on this blog before with no productive output. But I'm just wondering why neither your parents nor M's parents can't come to help out if the situation is so desperate? It's working out for thousands of families in the country and even many more worldwide this way who either can't or don't want to afford external workforce in their households.

    I totally understand that your situation seems very severe and is very frustrating for you but if I were you I would rather work proactively on an interim/different solution than blaming everybody else for not taking care of your issues and sticking to a plan that's obviously not working out.

    Even though I don't share your thoughts on this whole journey I wish you good look and that everything will be sorted out soon and be for the kids best!

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    1. I worked in Italy as an au pair for a year when I was younger I would not call that slavery. I lived with the family 24/7 and helped with the household, cooking and children. I also went on their vacations and work related trips to help out. I got to see the world and experience things I never would have done otherwise.
      It was not paid much at all, but that was not the point. I got to go to Italy, meeting people I never would have, travel to interesting places, live in beautiful houses and hotels and so much more.

      I got very close with the family and the children and was soon treated as a family member. I also got so many new friends and connections I never ever would have gotten otherwise.

      I fail to see the point you are making and you see things very narrow. See it from the girls point of view. This might be a dream for her like it was for me.

      I am not even going to comment on the "make your parents help" thing cause that is just stupid.

      Let's just say all the negative comments in this thread makes me sad. People have a tendency to think the know best when it comes to judging other peoples life and choices.

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  20. Could an Immigration Attorney help? He/She could possibly help move this along. Alternatively, since nobody is answering the telephone in the Immigration office, can you write a letter to them or to a government official explaining your problem and asking very, very nicely for some assistance?

    Will you have to consider the hire of a temporary part time local person until your permanent nanny is allowed to come in from Russia?

    This is a difficult situation. Susan

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  21. I have to laugh when you say that a Swedish nanny is 'far too expensive'! Considering what you spend on designer handbags and clothing that you quickly tire of, I'm wondering where your priorities really lie.
    You'd rather import some cheap labour, an untrained girl, than pay to have a properly trained nanny? Perhaps M would like to be a house-husband for a while? It would give him the chance to spend some time with the children. Celia

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    1. Ok, do your calculation before you tell me what to do. The RUT-avdrag per year (!!!!) is 50.000SEK: 8 hours per day with 50 percent decrease of the actually amount is for the first month (5 days a week with a cost of 200SEK/h, full price is 400SEK/h) is 32.000SEK per month.
      So after one a and a half month we've reached the level of RUT-avdrag and therefor we need to pay 64.000SEK per month. Is that normal? Do you think I buy a bag for 64.000SEK or 7000EURO per month? No I don't. Sorry to disappoint you.

      I can not legalise to pay a Swedish nanny 64.000SEK per month and not even have her total flexibility.

      Some comments are so naive, un intelligent, not though throng calculated and I just want to say something really nasty back for being so uptight when you don't even have correct information behind comments like these.

      Our girl is not un-trained, what do you take me for?

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    2. Celia has a good point. You waste a lot of money.

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    3. jealousy ...narrow-mindness...Stina asked for help, and advice.Not for biased judgments.Writing under cover is so easy for lousy comments...

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  22. There are plenty of competent Swedish nannies in the Stockholm area. I am sure you can find one. Why is it so important for you to take one from another country?

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  23. You don´t want to take a foreigner of the reason you want someone that speaks perfect english?....mmm, that´s odd, I think you can find someone from EU that speaks english perfectly, If you find someone in Russia you will find someone for sure from EU. And do you mean that this girl who will take care of your two little boys have to be available 24 hours/day? You said if you want to go for a walk in the evening you then know that someone can look after the boys. In my book that sounds very, very... not nice actually.

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    1. I wanted to have someone within EU, but our agency recommended this woman and we all liked here very much. I did not look for women in russia, she could come from UK, France, Finland, wherever, we just wanted someone that would fulfil our criteria!

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  24. Har ni inte råd att ha en svensk nanny så ska ni inte ha en nanny överhuvudtaget. Ni har barn, okej då kan man inte göra spontana saker utan allt handlar om att planera. Att ta som exempel att du kl 11 kanske vill ta en powerwalk med din pojkvän och därför behöver en barnflicka som står stand by 24/7 låter otroligt bortskämt och egoistiskt. Ta med barnet på er powerwalk isåfall. Ska du göra ärenden någon dag så har du dina föräldrar att be om hjälp. En del har inte ens det att räkna med. Den här planen ni har är otroligt naiv. Lägg ner. Din man förstår inte heller, han är väl inte medelklass som du utan är väl själv uppvuxen med nanny, det fungerar inte så i vårt land. Sen så ska ni inte räkna med Migrationsverket då de håller på att ta hand om alla PUT från alla miljoner syrier, somalier och övrig skit som väller in över våra gränser. Mitt tips: Anlita en svensk barnflicka som kommer några timmar om dagen och betala henne kontant i handen. Annars råder jag er att flytta till USA.

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    1. Of course you can, with the right sort of setup at home. I mean, please, don't be so square, think outside your own world for once and realise that just because your life is in a certain kind of way, doesn't necessary mean that the rest of the world wants to follow in the sam path.

      We've lived our typical family life for more then three years and now we are in a point of time in our life were we priority freedom and flexibility at home. If someone is living in our house with us and the children is sleeping, why would it be egoistic to take a PW in the evening? Makes no sense for me. It's all about communication among everyone staying in the house right? It's not that I'm going to wake someone up in the middle of the night and ask for a meal or a glass of water?!
      No, if you don't understand you simply don't and I wont put any time trying to explain. Some people are just born like you (narrow) with a very small world where everyone should be cloned and identical. Not my cup of tea.

      When you wrote that people coming from war, trying to find something better here are "SHIT" i stopped taking you seriously.

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  25. I mean, some people. They scare me. This is what our basic structure of this society is built on. My GOD! No wonder there's so much jealousy, bitterness and negativism going on.Open up your life, view of life, understand the differences and don't try to find fault in everyone else's way of trying to make life as good as possible.

    This is very typical Swedish and something I really don't like. As soon as someone do something a little bit different, these Mia, Pia, Fia is trying with every single bit of way to find wrongs, fault and try to make one feel like we're using slaves, not taking care of our own children, etc etc. It's so small and just shows that you live in a very, very small world. Travel, look around, talk to others not only from your little city or country.
    I've been more present to my children then most mums in this world since I've been at home with them. My man travels a lot, which is normal in the world we live in now, and therefor we need extra help.

    It's so tiring having all of these absolutely fanatic minds just throwing opinions about things that they clearly don't want to understand, I feel like only showing outfit posts because it's the easiest.

    No more comments about this will be read or published, so please spare yourself the time.

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    1. Det är ditt liv Stina, och du har så rätt, vi kvinnor i Sverige är så inskränkta och stöpta i en mall som vi tycker att alla bör följa. Annars är det ajja bajja. Det är något som skrämmer mig enormt och som gör mig rädd över vad jag kommer känna den dagen jag får barn. Jag inser att jag inte är stark nog än att hantera de normer som kommer kastas på en om man inte följer dem. Lev och gör era liv och var lyckliga över det och tillåt er att njuta av lösningar som ni skapar och är nöjda över. Du har inte en enda skyldighet att förklara för någon varför ni har valt att anställa en nanny och jag förstår verkligen att det är viktigt att man klickar med den person som kommer vara en del av ens familj och leva nära inpå varje dag. Jag önskar er ett stort Lycka till och hoppas att det kommer lösa sig till det bästa med tiden =) Kram Mary

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  26. Let Stina do whatever she wants. Just because it is not common in Sweden with a live in help/nanny, does not make it wrong. I live in South of Europe and we (and many many others) are fortunate to have help from the Philippines. I think all these people that accuse Stina of slavery are just jealous. Who wouldn't like a pair of extra hand to help with the kids and/or housework?! I can assure you it is AWESOME to sometimes hit the gym, go to the supermarket alone (without worrying if my toddler will have a tantrum) or have a date nigh with my husband, KNOWING that the children are back home with a nanny they know and love. As for being on constant back-and-call, our lady takes 5 weeks (!) of holidays, - which is double the holidays i take since im a business owner - and she is off on most weekends. We pay her living expenses, insurance and salary. She supports a whole family back home. So i think its clearly WIN-WIN... Hope your Russian lady gets her papers soon. Best of luck to your beautiful family!!

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  27. Tror inte alls att folks kommentarer eller kritik här baseras på avundssjuka och missunnsamhet
    man måste få kritisera utan att det beror på ngt av ovanstående! Att ha en nanny boende heltid för att ni ex ska kunna vara mer spontana är helt ert val, men med två små barn är det en prioritering och lyx som är få förunnat under småbarnsåren. Anställ en deltid eller lite mindre och precis som för alla andra familjer som kan unna sig det kommer det nog räcka gott och väl.

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  28. What a stupid comments,it is not your life is Stina's life so keep calm.It is only Stina's decisions which nanny she wants.She asked only for some immigration help, not for yours opinions about her lif

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  29. Stina. Väldens största Eloge till dig. Jag har läst din blogg i iaf 4 år men sällan kommenterar. Men nu blir jag så trött på alla trångsynta idioter som kommenterar här. Jag skulle vilja se dem säga detta till ditt ansikte. Bara för att vi i Sverige är vana att dumpa ungarna på dagis när de är 1 eller 2 år och sen fortsätta arbeta för någon annan, för att man politiskt och samhällssocialt bestämt det är helt sjukt. Se i andra länder, där hjälps familjer åt eller så anställer man hjälp. Och att man ska behöva flytta till USA för att få leva det liv man vill är helt befängt. All styrka till dig vännen, du har så rätt folk är trångsynta och att du ens orkar fortsätta skriva denna blogg varje dag förstår jag knappt längre.De som vill läsa om en slätstruken kvinna som lever ett vanligt svensson liv i förorten och följer alla våra sociala normer och regler kanske ska söka sig just till en sån blogg och lämna dig i fred. Trevlig helg! Vänligen Elin

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  30. This is quite entertaining! Not for poor Stina of course, who lately seems to be on the receiving end of lectures left to right from random people who are allowed into tiny snippets of her life through this blog. Big newsflash for you people! You do not get to choose how other people choose to live their lives You cannot apply your values, priorities or conditions onto others (and in one comment the entire population of Sweden no less) and assume it is the right way for everyone else, no matter how correct you think you are. To have opinions and to disagree is perfectly fine, but the tone in which some of you write is awful. And then I haven't even mentioned some of the rather rude accusations. If you don't like it, that is very fine and well, but what is it to you? And why do you think that you are in a position to tell others what they can afford or not? Laughable. If you find this blog so upsetting there are many more that you could read instead. And to Stina, keep up the good work. You do not owe people explanations for the choices you make in your life and for your family, and I certainly hope that you do not spend too much time on these comments. I love the mix between beauty/fashion and thoughtfulness, that is why I read your blog and why it is different from your average fashion blog. Most of your readers are perfectly capable to understand that an interest in (and spending money on) fashion does not equate shallowness or a lack of intelligence, nor does it mean that you are immoral or a bad person. Unfortunately you can't please everyone (damned if you do and damned if you don't). I also really look forward to you working again as you are highly recommended (haven't dared to go to anyone here in Sweden). Kindest regards, Celia (who has commented on your blog before a few times, not the Celia previously commenting in this thread though.)

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  31. I find it hard to believe that a nanny earns more than a senior hospital doctor in Sweden. Celia

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    1. What I think Stina is referring to is the total cost which includes "arbetsgivaravgifter". Hiring someone costs quite a bit more than only their salary. Regards / the other Celia

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  32. Hur kommer det sig att vissa läsare känner att de har rätt att kritisera din familjs livsval? Jag förstår verkligen inte det!
    När det blev det en rättighet att få kritisera/ventilera sitt missnöje på en blogg bara för att den är offentlig? Vore det en politisk blogg eller t.ex ett diskussionsforum angående barnomsorg skulle jag fatta, men nu är det ju inte det.
    Jag hoppas att du inte tar åt dig av de här negativa och rent oförskämda kommentarerna.
    Jag läser din blogg dagligen sedan ett par år tillbaka. Jag tycker du har en otroligt skön stil, både som person och som stilförebild. Hade jag inte tyckt det hade jag valt att läsa någon annan blogg...(blink)
    Ha nu en jättetrevlig helg, kram!

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  33. I didn't know it's such a hot potato in Sweden this baby nursing-thing:) Hopefully soon you get your nurse there to help you and everything goes fine. Have a nice weekend!

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  34. Stina, wish you all the best with your nanny search, hope you find a good solution of the problem as soon as possible. Actually it's a simple market economy case you've got there with imported nanny, as you call it. Cheaper labour attracts the investor. What's so strange about it? (I understand Swedish, so I got the discussion above). Maybe your choices are strange for some of the readers (some of them also for me), but who cares, and who has the right to judge. Sweden is one of the most expensive economies, but also among the most advanced ones, so there's really not much room for judgemental commentaries. I definitely keep my fingers crossed that you find a good childcare solution. I have a 3 and a 1 and a half year olds myself and work, so I can imahine how important childcare is for you right now. It's always some hard choices involved....after all, you leave your most treasured loved ones with another person. But i trust you will find the right way. All the best!

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  35. An interesting debate and one that people are getting passionate about. So many things involved that are close to our hearts. Small children, family, freedom, wellbeing, career, money and ethics. People will always judge, even if they do not comment, they are still judging. I have made my judgements too but I choose not to comment on them here. Hurt can’t be taken back. Kate

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  36. So interesting to read this discussion but also sad to see how narrowminded some people express themselfs. Beeing swedish but not living in Sweden since a few years have provided me with such a richer perspective on life and life choices. Not to say that I agree with all that is said I would rather say that a lot of comments are just built on lack of knowledge and understanding of other people. Everyone shouldn't be so fast to judge things they have so limlited knowledge about. Unfortunatley this is how many swedes argues. Similar rhungs uaed to upset me but today I would never give them a second thought. Please take a step back and look at the big picture. The world contains of so many more cultures, opionions, ways of life etc than the Swedish one. Love sweden to bits but sometimes we need to open up a bit our way is not always the best way, and definitley not the only way. //M-L

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  37. 64 000 SEK per month lönekostnad for you, that's crazy!!! For taking care of two children I don't think anything higher than 28 000 brutto is justifiable. The arbetsgivaravgifter for 28 000 SEK would be slightly less than 9 000 SEK and the total lönekostnad for you would be some 37 000 SEK. But given the low salaries teachers in Sweden get you could probably find someone wiling to work for you for less. Still more expensive than having a live-in nanny though, regardless of nationality. Swedes can also be "cheap" if you provide food and housing. But I totally understand you want someone you already know. I'd be soooo angry if I were you.

    Anyway, just read in the Economist that Migrationsverket has a very small budget and are currently overwhelmed by Syrian refugees. I doubt you'll get any sympathy there this being Sweden :(

    Good luck!!

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  38. Vet en kompis som anvande sig av Delloite for att fa in en Au Pair fran Philippinerna. De tog hand om allt, kostar en del men kanske vart det.

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  39. Dear Stina. I just read this post and a few of the comments, I totally understand your frustration and would feel the exact same way if it happened to me. May I ask if you've found a solution? I have a suggestion (for babysitting in Täby) that may be interesting whilst you are waiting for the lady from Russia. Shall I email you? Best regards Sophia Grant.

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