Thursday, May 7, 2015

Wednesday List


So many fun and interesting questions! Love when we have to go deeper into ourselves and really find our our belifes and thougts about life and things going on. 

If you happen to have some alone time at home, just by yourself, (kids at sleep, husband maybe out with friends), what's the first thing you'll do? 
- If everything of real importance is done, I'll either eat a big bowl of cereals and nuts in front of a documentary or movie, or if it's that sort of craving, some chocolate. Just being in front of a movie is extremely liberating and I really indulge myself to the film or what's being shown. My man often wants to talk while watching but i'm too into what the film is about, that I get annoyed. 

How would you dress up a simple white business shirt? 
- I would not dress it up, the beauty of a white business shirt in my world is the simplicity of it. A nice pair of trousers, maybe some cool loafers with an edge, sleeves rolled up, a unpretentious knot in the back of the hair, two buttons up ... Doesn't need more then that. PErhaps a small, thin chain in gold or sliver with a small, small pendant. 

What is your number one drink by the pool and a treat you think you really shouldn't have so often, but it tastes so good?
- In South of France - Gin'n tonic for sure which this year will be Vodka'n Tonic. My man loves a strong Pastis around the pool. If abroad I would never say no to a perfect Bloody Mary, a Cuba Libre or something else refreshing. Sometimes even a nice beer!
A treat by the pool with these sort of beverages is Sour'n cream chips. I'm such an addict, or salted peanuts or any kind of nuts actually.

Do you have any mantra?
- Everything you send out to the universe/other humans, you'll have ten times more back of. Negative as positive. You are what you think and send out. Cruel people meet a cruel world, forgiving and kind will have a kind and forgiving atmosphere round themselves. It's so simple.

I would love to see a monthly 1. Book 2. Film 3. Quote 4. Travel destination, with your views on why you recommend these.
  • Book - Yoga Girl now (read it before I understood how famous she was), 
  • Film - As the HUGE film lover I'm for interesting films of value, I would love everyone to see: Hotel Rawanda, Blood Diamond, The Last King of Scotland to mention the few I just saw again as a interest of the harsh times in Africa. 
  • Change can never be taken away, only move to an either positive ar less positive direction.
  • Travel destination - Now? I would love to zip a cocktail in New York with my man!

Do you guys plan to celebrate your wedding in Southern France some summer???
- No, we will for sure not get married in our house in South of France. It's gorgeous but I don't want to have more nice memories from there except the ones that come automaticlly, I want a fresh, new, passionate and extraordinary beautiful environment for the day when my man and me will through a huge love party and say yes to each other.

What do you think about Carrie Bradshaw's style? Too extravagant...?
- I think her style was fantastic in the late 90's early 2000 and I was a big fan and my mother always called me Carrie, both for my way of being (air in my element which means it's always a lot going on and u can't not notice me being around) and for my huge turquose tull tull skirts with pink Alaia boots and weird combinations. 

How do you deal with the messiness that motherhood brings, as opposed to the perfect lifestyle that we women tend to be looking for?
- I just try to breath. And try to really, deeply understand that this will be one of the absolute best times of my life when I sit older, reflecting over my it all. It may be chaotic, it may be a lack of a lot of things but one thing it's so much full of; MEANING and LOVE. Pure, raw, natural, passionate love. I indulge in that when I do feel I am slowely going insane. 
I've stopped striving for perfection a long time back. When you have it you get bored anyhow. The un perfect things gives another sort of dynamic dimension I think is much more fascinating in the end.

What do you think about Spanish fashion ( Zara, Massimo Dutti, Uterque, Bimba y Lola, Mango)?
- I love them all, Zara and Mango is amazing for shoes. The overall quality of blouses etc, not so fond of but if I don't buy 600Euro shoes, my second alternative is often Mango or Zara. 

Do you have already made plans for yours and Ms wedding?
- Colours, setup, my dress, what we want with the evening, yes. Location, not completely decided yet.

Care to share your favourite make up products and other daily cosmetics you use to stay bautiful through out the long and busy day?
- Medical skin products from Akademikliniken (read about which ones HERE), Maybeline Mascara, before I tatooed my eyebrows I used Chanel's eyebrow pen, Dior's lip pen and Tom Ford lipstick. Always Essies nail polish. 

What do you like and can't stand in people around you?
- Copy cats, narrow minds, people who are so weak they don't dare to say things directly to your face, unfaithfulness (both around my partner and my friends), weakness and the sense that they have stagnated in their life and don't develop themselves. That for me is very frustrating. Therefor I chose to have a few very close friends and close the door for them who hurt me or do something else idiotic.

Favorite color, favorite animal, favorite book, favorite film? Coffee or tea? Salt or sugar? Black or white? Mountains or sea?
  • Colour - light blue i really like. Chrome is another favorite.
  • Favorite animal - dogs, they are great comfort, fun, smart and you can really interact with them as a human if you train them well.
  • Favorite film: Autumn legends. Deeply in love with Brad Pitt in that movie, but M already know that so i'm secure. He actually reminds me about M, maybe that's why. Both are impossible, yet so god damn beautiful and sexy.
  • Coffe or tea - Coffe!
  • Salt or Suger - Salt(liqurice).
  • Black or white? - Black
  • Mountains or Sea? - Now that's a tricky one for someone like me who lived in the mountains paradise, Switzerland. Both Geneva and Zürich has them and they stand for greatness, heritage and beauty whereas I'm brought up in the Swedish archipelago three month per year and sea overall stands for something I have a great respect towards, but also liberating, freedom and the greatness of living. But in the end, water wins. 
What advantages brings family life with kids etc. for you?
- The best advantage is that you have to grow as a human and you will put yourself second most important which in the long run creates more humble and intellectual humans. We find out answers about our existing which one can not even touch if you don't raise a child and follow it throughout it's own development. In that sense you question everything about yourself which is of extrem importance and you also find out why you are who you are and have to work with frustration and impatience. I do find  to have even more respect towards my own parents and understand why they did things they did and also have more compassion that everyone is really just doing their best (hopefully). I know my parents really did and I love them for it.
Another thing you learn is that your child is not a miniversion of you, nor will it ever be our should become. I'ts a true own being, something you should encourige and push for as a parent. Even if it's the total opposite of what you want for (him/her) or expect. A child is not about you, it's about giving everything you possible can to give them the best ground and heart to take along in their own life. 
We are just observers as parents with a cause to always be there as support and unconditional love. In a way it's very selfish but what goes around comes around. That natures biological system has decided it this way. 

What were you like as a teenager?
- Wouldn't it be more interesting if we ask my parents or my mother. Answer coming soon. From my MOTHER: Being around Stina was always very cosy, she was very determent and goal oriented as a teenager and from a early stage wanted to earn her own money and did so with great matureness. She wanted to be able to do whatever she wanted and gave herself that freedom. She was really a hard worker. 
Stina was always very open to me and shared everything, even her inner thoughts and harder periods. She was slightly a shopaholic and sometimes a bit messy but extremely structured as soon as she put her mind to something.

My words: As a child I remembered my teachers always complained that I had "ants in my pants" and before the age of 12 years old, I really didn't understand why I needed to go to school every day and actually didn't enjoy it that much. In high school though I became a very good student and continued that way until I was 19 years old and went out with very high grades in all subjects except mathematic which was a big enemy. I loved it, but it didn't make sense to me. During this time, being perfect and finding my road of life was all I wanted and I was feeling very, very blue during longer period until I was about 24 years old. Many deep periods where I tried to understand life, myself, who I was, what my reason was here on earth and I started to practice Kabbalah as a guidance which I did until 32 years old. I still do it, but not so much as I should and would. 
From the age of 24-26 years old a completely new era open in me and from that time everything has been about an amazing and very positive journey for my own my development as a human and even so, it has been taken into tests many times when sorrow, divorce, moving to another country, meeting a man form another country and culture, work, etc etc has occurred along the way like with any humans life. 
But today I am mostly sincerely happy and also very proud of myself. And again, love myself. I think that's the only ingredient to a balanced life. If you don't love yourself you will always have destructiveness, pain and a constant need for others to love you, to fill that empty hole you have inside. When you love yourself and are proud for just trying to become something you want in soul mind/life - you won't take crap and shit, you stand up for yourself and want to treat other persons better. You will really be your own best friend throughout this adventurous possibility it is to live.
I feel very blessed in many ways and with that said, happiness can only be really true when shared, so my man, my boys and my family and friends are beautiful creatures to share it with. You see what you want to see around you. Chose to see the mening and beauty of it all. It will literally change your life to the better.

What do you wish you knew when you were 20, looking back at that age with the e perform e you have with you now. What advice would you give a 20 years old Stina?
- That looks is important, but if you make it judge who you are, you will forever be lost in a world of superficialness and constantly care for other peoples acknowledgement which will drive you insane and create a unhealthy life. I actually think a huge benefit was that I wasn't that pretty growing up, I think I was a late bloomer, it made me develop other sides which has given me benefits in my life. Like creating a personality which was only based of interests, trying different sides of me, being funny, smart, intellectual etc etc.

If you'd be given a power to make any change in the world, what would that be and why?
- Of course I would like to take away everything injustice and make sure no human never needed to starve or feel unsafe in the environment they're in. It's not something I can solve nor anyone else, but as soon the boys are older I will work not only with charity ( it has gone from really helping to big, luxurious galas and just a show off) but go maybe a few weeks per year down to the countries where I can be as help with my medical expertise. 
I don't look at the news since a few years back because I can't take in the world today. It drowns me in harsh reality. 

Would you mind sharing your spiritual values (or is it too personal)? I mean, do you believe in the hereafter, rebirth or something else? What do you see as the meaning of our time on earth?
- I have a strong need for spirituality in my life and one can try to determent a name for it but it besiclly sums up to my inner knowledge of the soul/mind/actions and heart influenced a lot by the technical studies form Kabbalah and the Law of universe. 
I know what a good human is according to me, I know I'm that sort of person who always strive to be better and do better. I know i am FAR from perfect and that I still carry sides of my personality which doesn't make sense and that I really don't like.
In the same way I protect my self sincerly becasue I truly love myself, it hasen't always been this fact but for a long time now I really do. In a way, that's my religion. That I've gone through so many crises inside of me (mainly when I was younger) and fought them throuh slowely but surely without substitute or getting into any sort of bad addiction in forms of alcohol, drugs etc. 
Living is not easy and being young is a hard and difficult road to learn how life is, what makes sense for you, what is good or bad in your surrounding and finding out on the way. Learning, do better, make misstakes, be humble towrads them and be forgiving to the people you/I might hurt on the way or try to understand the people who hurt me badly. It's crucial. That they (people who hurt you), also have a past and they are a product of who they are, their reality, upbringing, environment, their parents, if they recieved pure love and acceptance when they were younger ... 

Will you be able to take a long enough break from work to go to the south of France? 
- Of course1 One month at least we will be staying there. Can't wait. It's my happy place on earth. I feel like i am one with nature there and truly live a meaningful life.

What language do Alexis and Leon speak between themselves?
- Leon doesn't speak yet, only a few words, but Alexis speaks mainly Swedish with word of French and English. He has been slower over all with the languages, who wouldn't when learning three times as many words as a normal child? It has sometimes been very frustrating to him.

What's your advise for young women and the new exiting chapter opening up in their lives? 
- You have the possibility to create whatever life you want, if you are ready to work hard and follow your inner voice or heart. Never settle for a life you don't feel accomplishing you physically or mentally. 
We have one life as we now, live it. And travel, fall in love, make love, kiss, study, be social and spontaneous and the day you have children and a man, always be loyal or split up and give your children your time and presence. Always quantity over quality. They need you around as much as possible, that gives secure and lovable creatures and you will be there to guide them constantly. 

Will you not put up tings in Stina's Vintage Store soon?
- I will, as soon as possible! Stay tuned!

What would today's Stina tell her 30 years old self after all the experiences she made throug the years?
- The harder and blue times of life will be the most important life experiences. I owe everything of gratitude to my bad moments and really tough periods of life. The taught me so much about others and myself. Most of the time, there's a mening to all things happening. You just need to realize them. 

I would like to inject fat under my hollowness under my eyes, what do you think about that sort of treatment?
- You need to inject 50 procent more then the actual result after a year which will make you look quite particular for some time, try fillers before it, it so much easier and actually looks better in the end. Read about it at www.improvementsbystinaauer.com (Tear Trough)

Which sort of shoes have you been wearing mostly this week?
- Open toe ones. Summer is knocking in my body. I indulge it!

What do you eat fro breakfast?
- A piece of bread (now gluten free), two scrambled eggs and a big tea cup of coffee with milk.

What do you think about pension savings and how do you finance your expensive buys?
- That I need to pay it more attention for sure! I finance them by working and saving for something really, really expensive. I truly think my very crazy buys through. 

Which is your dream destination and which is the best one so far?
- I would love to go to Mexico, Panama (my sister will be moving there soon), Brazil, Argentina, South Africa, Portofino, Colombia, Maldives, Bali ... South America is the only continent which i've only been to little and I would love to explore it more. Really think it would suit my constant need for adventures, food, passion and architecture and colors.

Tell us about a fun childhood memory!
- Stay tuned.

Which day of the weeks is your favorite? 
- I love Fridays because I grow up with the weekends being extremely cosy and really my parents made such an effort for us kids. They were so lovely and paid great awareness to the food, choice of film, candle light in the evenings, snacks, chips and candy, sometimes I rather spend time with my parents then my friends. 
Now we have lovely food, wine, some wonderful Rum, light the fire if it's appropriate, use the terrace to late hours, play and kiss the kids and every day of the weekend we leave the house for something fun.

Are you completely Swedish?
- Yes. But most people around me says I'm very little as a typical Swedish person.

Is your man working in Sweden? If not, will you eventuelly move away from here again?
- He is not working in Sweden but has his own company in Geneva. I hope he will eventually find a good job here but I think he is too big for Stockholm. I don't know. I think we will stay here for some years, then move away again. Don't know. But Sweden is lovely and perfect for kids, but honestly, I want more out of my life.

Don't you ever wear sneakers during day?
- No never. Sneakers in my world is for power walks. I do use a lot of ballets and loafers though.

Would you like to have a third child?
- Absolutely. Maybe even four. But in reality I am not sure we will do it but a third child would be a complete blessing. I want a big family but then some things needs to change. For example, my man can't be way this much and I can't have this type of career and visions I do have.
Also my body hate being pregnant, it's ten moth of sickness, SPD, pain, extreme tiredness, blood loss etc for my case so I need to have a lot of help to make it.

Do your drive to work every day?
- No never, I take the bus and subway. Too much traffic in the mornings for the car.

Which are your summer plans?
- SOF, then ww'll see!

The Restylane Vital (Skin Boost), does it give visible Volume or just moist to the skin? 
- Both depending on how you put it and to what amounts. I have 4ml Restylane Vital in my face. Read more about it at www.improvementsbystinaauer.com

Can you show us your collection of bags?
- No, not the full one, don't see a point with that. 

I would love to know what skincare products you used while you were pregnant with your gorgeous boys. I am 20 weeks pregnant now and find my skin extremely dry and looking rather dull after a long northern european winter. I want to make sure I am using products that are kind for the baby but also would work well for me. 
- I would recommend Repair cream from www.ak.se Skincare, it's amazing for a pregnant woman and dry skin. 


How do you save money to your children? What is your best advice in this topic? 
We save a little amount every month for the boys, not too much but they will have that sum of money when they turn 18 years old or move to their own apartment. I want them to work hard and not just have a spoiled life. Of course we will help them with things like studies, apartments etc if necessary but they need to work the hard way. My parents bought me and Lissie each an apartment which was a blessing, but the rest we had to make for ourselves. They were always there if it was a crise of course but i do believe in letting your own children not have too much money and create their own life and afford the standards they make for themselves. 

Which item that you bought is the most valuable and your best investment? 
- My Birkins and Hermés bags. 

What advice would you give to young women when it comes to choosing men?
- When you are young, you should just indulge in the possibility to understand and enjoy men. When you have found out what you like in men, and who you become around them, you can start finding out if your are ready to settle down for a relationship. The hard things is being yourself and understand that a relationship is a never ending story about compromising and realize that you can never strive for perfection. The grass is not always greener on the other side.

I wondered if you think about starting and growing your own business? I am impressed with your skin care products and techniques. They are very effective. Does this business have international possibilities? 
- The business has a huge international possibility and If I would move abroad, of course!

Do you consider to move to another country in the future? Where would you like to move?
- Absolutely! But don't know where. Maybe to some lovely place in France? The houses in Geneva are crazy, insanely expensive and you get a small horrendous house for crazy amounts. Not so tempting.

What are your short term and long term goals, professionally and personally?
- Long times goals, be happy, balance, take away more and more technicalities and try to fulfill mine and my families dreams. Short term goals - private ones. 




Thank you so much and I hope you enjoy reading these answers as much as I enjoyed answering them!

See you soon, leaving for Berlin early tomorrow morning!

/stina

13 comments:

  1. Dear Stina, thank you so much for the answers and for sharing so much! As your reader I admire your values and thoughts and it makes it so exciting to follow your blogg.

    I'm so excited about your future and an eventual move abroad, which I feel is to come soon. I hope you'll keep blogging wherever you go! //Katja

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  2. Det jag gillar med dig är att du verkar vara en sån fantastisk kombo av tänkande och reflekterande människa i ständig strävan att utvecklas som person. Dessutom i en väldigt tjusig förpackning. Du är en förebild på det sättet som du tar dig genom livet. Jag är så glad att jag hittade din blogg för ett par år sedan, du inspirerar mig varje dag.

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  3. Thank you Stina.
    Liebe dein Leben, deine Gedanken, deine Stärke, deine Attitude.
    Du bist eine starke Frau mit sehr viel Gefühl für Fashion.
    Und danke für deine ansteckende positive Energie.
    Ich schreibe nie Kommentare...aber heute musste ich es tun.
    Danke dass du uns an deinem Leben teilhaben lässt. Freue mich jeden Tag auf einen neuen Post. Sicherlich beneiden dich viele um dein Leben, ich nicht. Ich bin glücklich mit meinem Leben - aber du inspirierst mich sehr.
    Du bist eine unglaublich feminine Frau, mit einem grossen Schuss sexappeal. Toll!
    Grüsse aus Deutschland
    Tanja

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    1. Bist du wirklich Deutsch? Wie du schreibst, ist ein bisschen nicht klar.Aber keine Sorge! .Willkommen zu meiner Heimat!

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  4. Hej Stina. Missade tyvärr Onsd fråge listan och undrar om det blir fler tillfällen? Tack för en fin blogg!

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  5. Stina I have been reading your blog for many years, and my own life has gone through many changes since. I always come back to your blog for a little wisdom it feels like getting advice from a big sister, I am 30 years old. Thank you for sharing your heart and if you ever need recommendations of where to go in South Africa just ask!

    Greetings from Cape Town, South Africa.

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  6. Thank you for sharing dear Stina!

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  7. Oh Stina! so many stupid private common questions!!!
    I looooove your blog but please dont continue with this kind of questionary.......
    It does not bring interesting things to read. Its like in primary scool... So insignificant!
    Your are someone more intelligent of that, please. You dont need to put yourself to this level.

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    1. Anonymous, I'm normally a non confrontational person, but your comment is so bizarre I couldn't help but comment here. What would you consider an "uncommon" question, something less "stupid"? How can you "loooooooove" to read the blog but wish to know nothing of the person's thoughts, opinions, advice, sharing stories? I think it's quite rude to tell someone how to run their blog, it's very "primary school" behavior. Maybe you should think twice before you comment next time with insulting comments towards the readers who asked questions. As for your last 2 sentences, I'm still shaking my head.

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  8. I loved your answers Stina... I also am always striving to be my best self. It's one of the many beauties of getting older, we chip away all the unnecessary and are just becoming more and more of our true selves. Have a wonderful weekend! :-)

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  9. So very nice with these questions and answers, on all kinds of topics! And a very long post that I enjoyed for a long while. Have a nice trip to Berlin, and a good weekend. Hope you share some pictures when you have come back. //Laila

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  10. Just returning from a travel I found your excellent idea of the questions. Thank you for these efforts to answer to all, with your habitual honesty and intelligence.
    Big hugs

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  11. Thank you stina! I also loved your deeper and more spiritual posts. I also appreciate the kombination of beaty and brain since it freels lika it is rare to combine it in social media. Love the list!

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