Wednesday, December 2, 2015

Monster bug

Except a lot of head ache, the last couple of days have been really cosy. Last week I almost had a brake down of just everything "too much" and I decided to do a mental and physical change. If I don't feel well, then no one will and I can't be of good help for my children if I don't take care of myself first. No more details needed, but I'm on a developing journey again like so many times in my life and I feel a lot of changes is about to come and I need them for my survival, air (Aquarius) sign as I am.

(If anyone is good at predicting peoples future, please let me know!)

(coat: MaxMara, leather pants: Isabel Marant, blouse: Chloe, sweater: Soft Goat, bag: Céline & monster bug: Fendi)

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  1. Me being an Aquarius I proactively chose path instead of being re active.

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    1. Hi, I'm not sure I got that sentence.

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    2. As an Aquarius you can also chose a proactive path in order to avoid chaos if you want to avoid it that is. You chose, you handle.

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    3. ?? still didn't get it

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  2. Being a Gemini, I just go nuts and explode, then make tea five minutes later - my Aquarian does not like this behaviour!

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    1. Ha ha , no we need to analyse it to the fullest!

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  3. I am also close to a mental break down. Understand you don't want to give away too many details on the blog, but would be interesting ti hear a little more. What drives the stress? Kids, job, lack of sleep, lack of "me-time"? For me it is job.. I though the other day about the secret, buuut I start to doubt, because positive thinking is not always enough.. Agree fully that one have to prioritize one-self in between but that is difficult sometimes.

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    1. I'm sorry to hear that.

      For me it's when the kids fight a lot and I have to jell, scream, have ten tons of patience, and is on my like two stamps. When they are hard to put to bed and when I have many people who pulls in me for different reasons. It's also when my man and me are un-synced if oyu get what I mean (no time together) or when I have no energy to do anything cosy in the evening when kids are put to bed.

      Just too much of a lot of things.

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  4. I'm a Capricorn and very practical. Don't analyse everything, you put too much pressure on yourself. The blog must be demanding but all that matters is your health and your family...concentrate on that, the rest will follow. The dark days (light wise) must be hard to deal with, I don't think we really get it (South coast UK) it must be hard. You are a lovely lady, with a lovely family. Be happy :) x

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    1. I do analyse things, else I wont necessary changes to feel better or develop my life. Thank you for the kind comment, yes the darkness is hard. I take D vitamin which really helps!

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  5. I feel the same way Stina! When I left work today I almost started crying in the car because I feel so tired and stressed out. I only sleep about 5-6 hours per night and still I don´t feel like I have enough time for my children and demanding work. So I too really need a big change in my life. Take care Stina! /Maria

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    1. I need to sleep minimum 7-8 hours, preferably 8.5 soI do not understand how you cope? LAck of sleep can make anyone depressed, please make sure you change that!

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    2. Challenge with getting 8 hrs of sleep when kids both don't sleep until 21-ish is NO me-time...

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  6. Good to hear you are taking care. If you don't feel okay, nobody feels particularly well. Kids and all. I sense you sometimes have to much on your plate and when one more thing adds to the load you are toast.

    Time to reset.. There is just so much one superwoman can do. You are a very impressive person and I'm sure you will get everything just right. All the best, Susan .

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    1. Thank you, I do feel a little bit grateful for being a person sensitive to these sort of things - most extraordinary developing journey has always come out of a down hill period!

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  7. Dear Stina,
    This period of the year, too much works , so many things in mind, I only can tell you that I am also like you are feeling now. I fight a lot not to get into a depression..... But for you, only to rest more, do less, think more of yourself and love, love, love of M will repear all that.You are too much tired dearest. And may be alone.... Signs have nothing to do with that....... In French we say, you have to "lever le pied..." Difficult with children but ask more help, think more of yourself .
    Tabitha normally Gemini do not explode!!!

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    1. Dear Uta, do you take extra Iron and D-vitamin every day? That really helps!

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  8. to do less things is the only way to feel better.....! It doesnt matter if you try Positive thinking, Mental training and so on, if you dont do less things in your life. Yes, it nice to go to dinner with friends....but it takes energy to fix your self, be social.....its better to just hang with yourself at home, and with your kids, and just try to have "nothing to do time"...

    No you can't start to clean your home....or baking....or start any projekt just to fly from yourself....just sit on the floor, sofa, bed and be still.....

    My english is not perfect..not me either......but you understand :) Hugs Anita

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    1. I try to! And my friends give me the most good energy at the moment so I try to spend a lot of time with them. Giggles, love and someone who knows you purely, what's better for the soul and heart then that?

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    2. Agree absolutly! I meen that a lot of people run around stressed themselves to have time to go to so many places....sometimes it is better not to run with your heart in your throut feeling nearly a heartattack to get to your Yogarelaxinglesson....better stay home and take it slow....

      Didnt meen that you do that Stina!

      But sometimes people (and of course me) do things that take more energy than it gives.

      Friends is absolutly the best "heeling" . Anita



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  9. I can really understand this. I think it's really common for people who want more from life and also seek to improve themselves to often find that they have bitten off more than they can chew! With myself, I always wish for life to be more steady and less stressful but as soon as I have calm for two days, I again start to take on more challenges and find myself overwhelmed again! It's something I have just learned to accept as my nature and you sound the same.

    What I have learnt though is to step back when I feel like it's all too much and again reset my priorities. There is nothing wrong with taking time for yourself when it is needed and you are right – you cannot be a good wife/friend/daughter/mother for others if you are not taking care of yourself. I often need to remind myself that stepping back a little is not failing, rather it's taking note of what really works for you in your life.

    I had this same feeling only last week. It's been a tough year. We moved countries, bought a home, husband started a new job based in another country and frequently travels. I was trying to learn the local language, integrate in a foreign country, begin work again and all of this happening when my baby died when I was 6 months pregnant. All of my future hopes vanished overnight and for the first time in my life I was confronted with real raw grief.

    Not the type to stay in bed and cry everyday, I moved forward and slowly tried to rebuild my life. It was all good to do that until life felt like it became too much again. By the mid-November I told my husband I was done with this year. I had done more in one year than most people do in 3 years and that 2016 couldn't come fast enough!

    I like to see all things in life as an ocean with it's ebbs and flows. Sometime I have all the energy in the world to be strong and loving and nothing will hold me back. And other times it's all too much this adult life and the thought of a day in bed without expectations and obligations is heaven.

    I don't think there is a single magic routine to solve your problem. You and your family are constantly changing and therefore needs change with it. All you can do is follow your heart, do your best, and when it becomes too much just tell those around you that you need some time out and take that time for you. Soon you will feel reenergised again and the cycle begins again.

    Sending everyone commenting and reading these comments lots of love and strength. We all need positive encouragement and support from time to time and perhaps voice it to ourselves and each other far too little.

    I'm a Pisces by the way :)

    Lauren x

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    1. Dear Lauren,

      What can I write when you so honest and raw share your precious reality with us. Thank you for opening up. Words can not describe what I feel for you. I wish no one the loss of a child and I am so so sorry for you but amazed by tour wisdom and strenght. The really amazing, inspiring, soul conected humans are the ones who can handle a tragic like this, by accepting it, carrying it with you which you will every day but still try to take one little step forward and realise that you can never forget, but time can give you something else.

      I truly say thank you for this comment. I think it gave a lot to many. I truly hope life will treat you in another way now and hopefully you'll raise above most people in many different aspects of life.

      My warmest hug and love,
      stina

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  10. Dear Stina,
    I make similar experiences and this autumn/winter it got worse for me with family, full-time job and all the usual demands on top. I started a homeopathic treatment and it was a game-changer for me. I feel as good as never before and finally I not put my personal needs as low as before which helps, too.
    Best,
    K

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  11. I agree with Stina, thank you Lauren for sharing your story. I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling right now Stina, but this too shall pass -as the saying goes. Try to find 5-10 minutes in the evening for meditation -something that really helps me to re-energise. Stay strong and loving to yourselves and those around you.

    “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”
    ― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

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  12. Thank you so so much for sharing with us Lauren and Stina! You are two beautiful and very intellectual women. And I really hopen you can have mor "Stina-time", you need that and it has to been a routine... Warm hugs

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