Sunday, October 30, 2016

Signature look


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The days are just running by like nuts. I am progressing in everything I want at the moment, two big things but it takes a lot of effort and I need to give them the time it demands from me. I sleep less then ever but still have a good amount of energy i must say. I will tell you all of it when time is right, I promise.
The children are both difficult at the moment, Leon is in a tantrum/stubborn phase and Alexis is going through some pree teenage period where he question everything we tell him off but he responds in being a little arrogant in which he obviously has nothing to win, I guess this period will make him realise that. Ten bags of patience my husbands nanny used to say about him and his brother apparently, I remind myself about that about 100 times per day it feels. I hate when it's more of "stop fighting, No Alexis, Stop it Leon etc etc" then the opposite, I feel like such a bad mother and still I know its crucial. To be firm, loving yet set clear rules and make them understand that there is consequences to everything in life. As a parent it often feels like all we do is nag, tell them off and educate them. And only parents of two children so close in age (I will also say boys are more handful in this age and will be easier later when girls are more difficult) will understand the intensity and constant chaos.

Anyhow, from deep talk to superficiality, something we need to survive the everyday chaos, my signature look for this fall. You who fallow me on instagram have seen me in multiple combinations of knee high boots and a lose fit sweater, I just simply love it so much.

How do you deal with small child years when your children is just so much of everything and it feels like all you do is yell?

(I put some really nice things up in Stina's Vintage Store ... make sure to take a look!)

Have a lovely Sunday evening, talk soon!



7 comments:

  1. Hey Stina,

    I only have one little boy so I can only imagine how it is to have two. I so recognize what you are saying though about feeling like a bad mom with all the nagging. Just getting tired of hearing my own voice. All kids are different of course but what I have done with mine is set some rules, both for me and him. For myself I try to stay with a calm voice (screaming inside my head of course) because every time I raise my voice he does the same so we get nowhere. Mine is also in teenagemode right now. I NEVER try to talk sense to him when he is the most angry. It just doesn't work. Instead I wait for the storm to calm down then we hugg the bad stuff away. And I wait with the serious conversation until the day after when we walk to school for example. Then I set a roule that came after we had a very bad week about a year ago. If he kicks, hits och lies to me or anyone else I choose a toy that we throw away. This obvioulsy resulted in A LOT of tears the first two times. But with that being said, it only happened 3 times after we set the roule a year ago. I obvioulsy don't take his cuddly sleeping favourite, but I do pick something that will "hurt", so he understands the seriousness in what he has done wrong. But hey, all kids are different. This is what worked and still works on mine.

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  2. SOM jag saknat dina inlägg här:)Kan verkligen tänka mig att det är mycket som ska ordnas och som händer för dig. Längtar till vi får veta vad det är...så spännande om du snart berättar. Angående Leon och Alexis så är jag säker på att du/ni hanterar dessa faser så bra det bara går. Man måste få bli arg och frustrerad och kunna visa det, även om man såklart vet att det är bäst att försöka sitta ner och lugnt och sansat prata med de och berätta vad man känner och vice versa.. Mycket snyggt och skönt med stövlar och en härligt höstklänning/tröja. Du bär verkligen upp detta "enkla" både med stil och elegans, som alltid iofs:))
    i veckan inviger jag mina underbara "Stina-halsdukar" med dunbollar på för denna höst och vinter. Älskar båda supermycket, en röd och en lila. Din lilla butik har gett mig så mycket glädje genom dessa. Tack! Kram fina Stina

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  3. coping with children… do time-outs work?

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  5. Strong willed....is that something special?

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  6. my boys are 11 and 4 and the struggle is real... full on sibling rivalry and chaos. no day is complete without them screaming at each other, me screaming at them, one or both destroying something expensive... the worst is when my husband is upset with me and me breaking down in tears!

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  7. Den tröjan! Vill flytta in i den och återvända när våren kommer. Var har du köpt den? Kram från en trogen läsare

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